15 year old stepdaughter

Leesa - posted on 09/05/2013 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Hi everyone,
Well been here before but our situation has only got worst since last time so I'm at my wits ends. Let me explain my 15 year old daughter is the most disrespectful brat you will ever meet. On the weekend she asked me if she could go to the movies and sleep at a friends I said no problem gave her money and dropped her off. Wasn't home more than 10 mins and the friends mother called an said she didn't know anything about it and her daughter had told her she's gone to a party. Hubby and I got the address and caught her out the front drinking and smoking ( while she has asthma) and while she is on anti depression tablets. We have given her everything got her counciling ( she doesn't go) her tablets she doesn't take them. She has been suspended from school twice has been in trouble for fighting at school ( still doesnt see anything wrong with hitting this poor girl) we get calls everyday from her school about her not doing homework etc. when we took her from the party she came home and the next day was Father's Day she left and went to a friends house. She is always saying she wants family time but never wants to be part of our family. Her step sisters 13th bday she turned around an said well she's not my real sister so I'm not staying here fôr her pàrty. Mind you they have grown up together since toddlers. She swears at us tells her dad she hopes he dies, and then on Father's Day nite she turned around an said at bedtime well I won't be coming back home after school, she said she hates living here and wants to runaway. So my hubby had enough and said fine pack your bag and go so she did. Reported her to police so we could check to make sure she was safe and she's living with her friend. The police said if she's safe not much they can do in (aus) what a joke right. She sent us a text telling us she hates living with us she's nôt happy at our house even though SHE got everything she could ever wanted. Private school which we decided if she's not living here than we arnt paying for as she doesn't try anyway so we unenroled her an told her if she's so grown up than pay for school herself. She has NO family at all that are willing to take her in because of her attitude and behaviour and her mouth. I know some people will judge me here but I'm sorry to say it everyone in this house myself, hubby my 3 kids who hubby has raised are very happy she is gone. You have no idea the stress an fights that have been going on in the last year and my kids have never been around that before. We are slowly going back to normal life. And yes we love this girl but the way she doesn't want any help from us and we've tried it kills us. All this kid has done is kick us in the guts for everything we have done for her. We told her as soon as she is ready to go to hospital and accept our help than she's welcome to come home but until that time she can't. I know that might sound harsh but my hubby has various health problems which are getting worst every day. Example the last time they had a argument he collapsed with chest pain, got rushed to hospital as we thought it was a heart attack. My 3 kids were all crying (their teens 2 boys 1 girl) I. The drive way and my sd all she said was well dad said I could have my ipad back before he fell over so can I have it now?????? You understand what we are dealing with. What do you think should we wait for her to come to us for help?? Thanks in advance

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Leona - posted on 10/06/2013

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Hi Leesa, I am so so glad to hear that, this is just confirmation that we serve a Mighty and Living God and he will never give us anything we cannot carry and if we find it hard he will Carry us because there is no storm to dark he cannot calm :-) God bless you always,
Leona

Leesa - posted on 10/05/2013

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Thanks Leona,
Well I have good news my sd rang me crying on Friday
Morning asking me if I could take her to the hospital as
She was sick. Of course I rushed straight over and took
Her to hospital. They put her in and she was on a drip and said
She had a bladder/kidney infection. While their she begged to
Come home and said she can't do it alone. So she's home now
Safe. She still needs help with her depression which we are getting
Her. Unsure yet how she will go as her sister is also here and
She is jealous of our relationship and likes to put my sd down
ATM we have 6 teenagers here so I'm very busy but I'm glad they
Are safe as their bio mum is a bad person and doesn't care about them
At all. Wish me luck :)

Leona - posted on 10/03/2013

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Hi Leesa,

Just read the updates on your situation....don't give up continue the texting but don't give up on her you are a great mum don't ever forget that. If you didn't care you wouldn't be so concerned. just keep holding her up in prayer and keep contacting her no matter what im sure she will come around eventually there's something I always believe in P U S H ..........Pray Until Something Happens and then afterward continue to give God all the glory cos he will never leave you nor forsake you throughout all that has happened. He led your daughter to a women who can take good care of her and that is the beginning of your blessings.
chat again soon

Leesa - posted on 09/11/2013

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Thank you Lynn,
Agree totally, I texted her today to tell her I loved her and she told me she is ok. I have meet the lady she is living with and I know her address etc. her step sister and brother don't really have bad feelings towards her but they have seen their step dad cry and they have cried with him so they don't like what she has done to him. I know it sounds bad but the chemistry in our house has gone back to normal since she has left and their is no longer fighting but their is a saddest which is painful. I have told her when she wants to get help she knows where I am but her dad is having a tough time and has said he wants nothing to do with her at this stage but hopefully he will come round. She said a lot of hurtful things to her dad such as I hope you die so he is pretty upset with her. She has issues to deal with from her bio mum but she also can't keep using this as an excuse for her behaviour. She didn't even want to spend time with us for Father's Day which really hurt everyone. My kids have grown up with their step dad and love him alot and don't like to see him hurt thank you again

Lynn - posted on 09/11/2013

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This young girl has a lot of buried hurt and now to know that her family may have the slightest relief because of her exit from her home, it is a horrible situation. While she is away, you all must talk about the fun times you had when she was around. Don't allow her siblings to think of her in negative times. Call or text her with loving and positive messages: " We miss you, Hope your okay." "We love you."
She may not move back, but keep giving her love to ward off any ill feelings/thoughts she may be creating due to this disruptive situation. We grow up to love others the way we have been loved.

Leesa - posted on 09/08/2013

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Thank you Leona,
Yes when she did go to councillor she went twice they told me and her dad that its her bio mums fault because of the way she was treated unfortunately, we are devastated but think she is used to living with fights as when she was with her mum and isn't used to living in a loving home as we have now. We are hoping and praying she keeps herself safe and we have told her when she's ready to get help then she knows where we are. Sad but true our home now is starting to feel like a nice place to be for my kids as they arnt subjected to the fighting and tantrums from my sd. I'm sorry about your accident hoping you make a full recovery very soon, it's been lovely to chat to you :)

Leona - posted on 09/08/2013

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Seems like she is also very very angry (possibly with her own mum) the problem sounds very deep, as you say she has been sent for counselling but wont go and there is nothing they can do until she wants the help, unfortunately. she probably feels that she is not your biological daughter and can do whatever she likes and that is sad because you have brought her up from a toddler. it also sounds as though she is lashing out because she cant lash out at the person who has made her this angry person. Just keep trusting in God Leesa. As soon as I am able to I am going to place your name on the alter at our church for prayer, I am laid up in bed at the moment due to a motor vehicle accident I was involved in - thankfully no broken bones but soft tissue damage :-( and I am confined to my bed as the blood in my legs have started to clot soooo it looks like the internet is my companion and guess what im so glad that this happened otherwise I would not have had the time to log on here.
Stay blessed - Leona

Leesa - posted on 09/08/2013

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Thanks Leona,
My sd just rang and wanted me to bring the rest of her clothes over which I did, seems to me she isn't coming home anytime soon. She is living with a girlfriend who is 18. Which I surpose I should be grateful for as she is safe. The girl introduced herself and seems like she is taking care of her. My sd doesn't seem to get she should be here with her family but she doesn't want us to be her family. I don't understand it as she was given everything while she was here. I'm hoping when she grows up a bit she will come back. My hubby is still at the stage where he wants nothing to do with her but I'm sure with time he will come around. We just love her so much and she seems she hates us no matter what we do thank you again and good luck with your daughter also

Leona - posted on 09/08/2013

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Hi there,

my heart goes out to you, my daughter Lejeune is also 15 years old and drives me insane although she doesn't go over the extreme just very very rude and wants her own way no matter what the consequences. just this morning I decided, I am now going to leave her and give the silent treatment, I think just leave her to do what she wants, she will learn the hard way because it seems as though the hard way is the only way they will learn. she will come knocking on your door before you realise it and if she doesn't because she is too proud just keep praying for her safety and ask God to protect her no matter where she is. I believe in the POWER OF PRAYER so you and I together will be praying for our girls. God will never leave nor forsake his children.

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