15 Year old teenage boy spends too much time on Xbox, Minecraft. etc. THIS IS LONG BUT IF YOU COULD READ AND HELP PLEASE DO SO THANK YOU

Allison - posted on 02/23/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Hi everyone, I am not a mom but I am a sister of a very troubled brother. I am not sure what to do and my mom isnt tech savvy so wouldnt go on these websites. My brother comes home from school everyday and does his homework (not without smartmouthing or rude comments) and once he is finally finished he will go to his xBox and play halo or any shooting game. Once he is sick of that he'll come downstairs and play minecraft or watch youtube videos about minecraft. This started out as not a big problem, but now that my mom has said no to the computer going in his room as well, he is crazy. When he is on the computer his face is red and he just stares blankly at it, we try and talk to him but he doesnt hear us until we yell loudly. When he is FORCED to get off of the computer he is beyond angry. He goes outside to the hanging punching bag and punches it like hes wanting to kill it. It is NOT normal. I am not sure what to do about this because he goes straight from watching violent videos and playing a game, to punching, and then straight back to the videos. He does not get off at all and is forced to for limited amounts of time. We try to control his time but he ignores you until you just stop caring. We believe he may become a depressed suicidal teenager if he gets the computer to his room and just stays up there everyday, but with him down here being rude and angry it is not helping the family. If anyone is going through this or knows of a suggestion to help, please tell me! thank you!

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/25/2014

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Linda, why are you even a member of this site? You do nothing but attack everyone else.

Allison, your parents need to be parents. They have the control to remove the electronics, if they are concerned. They have the control to limit exposure to, and access to all of that.

Otherwise, Denikka's hit the nail on the head. And ignore people who get bitchy like some have...They apparently are so miserable that they feel they must spread the joy

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Allison - posted on 02/25/2014

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And yes I defintily agree with Denikka's points!!! I wish you luck when your kids get older but I believe you will be able to handle it just fine!!

Allison - posted on 02/25/2014

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Thank you guys for your help!! I will be suggesting the things you have said!

Denikka - posted on 02/25/2014

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Honestly, I only have small children, but what tends to work for me is this: I let my kids play, but if I ask them to do something, they need to stop playing and come do what I've asked. If they refuse, or if they throw an attitude about it, then games in general get taken away for a chunk of time, sometimes the rest of the day.

Same thing happens if they start getting pissy about a game (can't do something, are losing, etc). It stops, right there.

In your brothers case, he could perhaps earn a certain amount of time on his games or on the computer. A couple hours a day instead of all evening.
And as his mom, along with sitting him down and telling him why I felt him having a computer in his room wasn't appropriate, I would also be letting him know that his behavior and outbursts had a factor in that as well.

That being said, he is 15. He's hormonal, just like a teen girl. That's going to lead to some strange behaviors, and punching a bag is actually one of the better options out there.
It may not be a bad idea to suggest he get involved in some sort of physical sport. Football, hockey, rugby...even wrestling, boxing, or kick boxing. I wouldn't suggest forcing it, but definitely bring it up as a suggestion to him and your mother.
I would also suggest that your mom (especially if there is no father figure around) set some time aside for him. At least once a week, do something with just him. Something he enjoys. Talk to him, really listen to what he has to say. He may be dealing with something at school or in his personal life that you both are unaware of.
As his sister, it wouldn't hurt if you tried to do this as well. Even just stop by his room for a few minutes and ask how his day was. He probably won't respond all that positively at first, but be consistent and he'll realize that you actually care.

Allison - posted on 02/24/2014

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Well. That was kind. All I wanted to know was if other moms are having this issue with their kids or have had the issues. If anyone knows restraints or how to deal with an anger management child who is psycho at times and punches doors because you pushed his shoulder. I am in no way a mother and am only 18 and I'm only curious if other people have gone through this and no any helpful tips. Thank you SO much for your kind words. :|

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