16 year old blinded by love

Liza - posted on 10/30/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




I have a 16 year old daughter who is very bright, clever (all A's, A* in her GCSE results) goes to an excellent college, always puts 110% effort in, not into drinking/walking the streets etc. She has been with this boy, same age, since June and is totally obsessed with him. He does nothing. Makes her pay for everything, saying he's no money (even though she only gets £22 a fortnight from working) wont let her go out with friends when they're not together but he can, talks to other girls in ways he shouldnt if he's with someone and posts pictures of them all over facebook. He's now said he "wants a break" for the second time in as many months. He's now out with other people, writing hearts and love you's all over other girls profiles on facebook while my daughter is miserable. He's saying they're still together but just on a break!! My daughter has for the last 2 days, been to my mums for money to catch the bus to hang out with his best friend - because if she doesnt see her b/friend again, at least she will have said bye to his mates!!

She wont talk to me, wont come home before 11.30pm, snaps when i ask if she's OK. The only time she does talk to me is when she wants a lift or something else. I've told her im here for her, I've also told her he's playing her for a fool and she should dump him, but she says she cant as she loves him!

Help - how do I handle this? Do I go back to basics and ground her or would she retaliate more? Do I forbid her from going to see his friend (if thats where she's actually been going)?

Im a single parent and also have an 11 year old son. I give her no money (as she refuses to help round the house) so all the gets is her wages from a fortnightly saturday job.


Kimberlee - posted on 10/30/2012




Sounds like you're already doing what you can. My daughter is also an A student and we've gone through a Boyfriend crisis , It's AWFUL !! But they get through t. Just keep letting her know you are there for her when and if she needs you. Try not to sound or be judgmental . Good Luck !!

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