16 year old with a nasty attitude

Alecia - posted on 09/11/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

5

0

0

It's as if my charming, funny, loving 15 year old daughter has been replaced with a miserable, moody, rude and uncaring 16 year old in 4 months. I am at a loss. She has changed so much since turning 16 and it is tearing me up inside. I am reading books and articles online and I understand this is a normal phase but how in the world do I deal with this attitude day after day? It's to the point that I am afraid to even start a conversation with her most of the time. I never know who will answer me. I did not go through this with my older daughter. She was just not this moody. So pleasant as a teen. She was an awful little girl but a pleasant teenager. My 16 year old was an awesome little girl, so much fun but her teenaged self..... not so much. Please tell me this too shall pass. I am losing sleep over this.

She did go through an awful breakup 4 months ago and I am afraid it has changed her for the worse. Maybe it is coincidence? Maybe she would have morphed into this creature without the breakup but holy cow, this stinks! She even has a new boyfriend! You would think that would make her smile!? Nope, not for me..... Dying over here. Any suggestions?

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Lynn - posted on 09/11/2013

55

0

9

My daughter is the same way. I don't know if I will see Dr. Jekyll or Ms. Hyde, but I greet her and when I get her reply I know whether to continue or freeze. Don't let the moodiness scare you because they will sense that from you. Simply, go about your day as you normally would, saying as little as possible to her. If she initiates, give a brief and calm reply. Don't allow her to suck you into an argument. If a disagreement starts quickly simply nod your head or say alright and get back to your task. This is a great time to find a hobby like knitting, cooking, gardening, running, do some DIY home improvements.
There are days when my daughter will talk and we enjoy mother/daughter bonding activities (I encourage you to have a few ideas in mind for the good days). Then there are times when I am the enemy-so far, I have changed the oil in my car, fixed my a/c unit, started a garden, killed a toad and painted a couple rooms in my house.

2 Comments

View replies by

Alecia - posted on 09/16/2013

5

0

0

Thanks for your reply Lynn. You made me laugh :) We had a rough weekend, Saturday was just awful. Her boyfriend was away on a college road trip and she just sat in her room with the door closed. I took my older daughter out shopping and brought the younger one (the nasty one) a shirt. No "thank you", no "it's cute", just a sour face. I lost it. It was just a bad day. I hate that I stoop to the level of yelling at her because all that does is make it all worse. Eventually, like 6 hours later, she came out of her room and asked me to go get gas with her. She opened up a bit, I think she is still a little sad over her breakup but doesn't want to admit that. She has a new bf but I think the ex still affects her. This too shall pass..... I tell myself that everyday!

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms