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Cathie - posted on 06/06/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My 17 year old son is addicted to the computer. I am an older mom and understand that computer use is the new normal. This has been going on the past year. I have limited time,, made a contract with him, and took it away. When the computer is gone he verbally abuses me, follows me from room to room and even pounds on the door. He lies all the time for computer privileges. I so wanted to believe him and I am always disappointed. Yesterday he was on for 16 hours. He rarely goes out. He has a job as a caddie and he doesn't want to do it. He wants a different job, naturally they are hard to come by. It is hard to get a 17 year old in the car and force him to go caddy. room talking about my deceased friends and makes fun of me with visible arthritis. His dad lives in the house but never was much of a dad. I have to do something, having him on the computer without living the house is unacceptable to me. He doesn't show interest in anything. He tells me he is going out with friends because of my nagging but it never happens.

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Lakota - posted on 06/06/2013

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Take it completely away from him. Don't give it back. Tell him when he goes to work regulary, has a social life, and doesn't abuse you and your trust, he can have it back then. I would give it a couple of weeks for him to prove it to you before you consider giving it back though. Also, I would tell his dad / your husband to grow a pair.

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Enna - posted on 06/12/2013

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I would definitely keep it away from him, but I would consider it as a reward. If he goes to work, he gets his laptop for two hours (or whatever). If he's polite to you all day, does his chores, goes out with friends, etc. Give him some computer time. I know he's getting older and real life doesn't work like this, but I think you need to teach him that it's ok to use the computer in moderation, after he takes care of his responsibilities.

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