17 yr old son wouldnt do something i asked of him....

Kimberly - posted on 11/13/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am not sure what to call this........His Dad and I were on the couch , and he was on a the chair in the living room, and our dog, gets a treat at night and my hubs said " maybe Nick can get her the treat" and Nick clearly said "NO Nick isn't getting it"........so we paused and I said Pal, can you get her her treat?" and he paused....looked at us and said "NO I WON"T" and went back to being on the laptop......my husband got so angry, he started groweling and spitting while talking and threatening consequences and I just don't agree. I know he was being disrespectful but groweling isn't the answer and I am looking for what a good answer IS for something liek this....its a a damn dog treat. He is a good kid. I MEAN i can't complain! he is on honor roll, does his chores, is home on time, doesn't disrepsect us NORMALLY .....what is this??? my husband waited for me to wake up this morning to tell me that " we will have a talk with him" later about this and I just dont think its that big a deal????? ADVICE PLEASE? i am new to this site and so happy I found it. THANKS in advance.

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Barbara - posted on 11/13/2012

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When I am in the middle of something, a chore or a favorite project, I really don't want to be interrupted. As a mom, we accept that we will be interrupted frequently and realize our kids need our time. It could be your son was in the middle of something important to him and didn't want to break off, even for a favored pet for a minute or two. I think I'd just dismiss this one break with his otherwise excellent behavior. If you can talk to him in a friendly way, without dad's presence, he might let you know he was: getting a head start on a homework project, having a discussion with a friend on Facebook, responding to his email from his girl friend, working out a problem on his own, or something else he needed to focus on. Cut him some slack, sounds like you have a fine young man. He may have perceived dad's reaction as being disrespectful to him and the interruption frustrating. Hope you like it here, I love it! I hope this helps a little.

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Barbara - posted on 11/14/2012

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sometimes it takes another mom to give us a reality check. Glad I could be of some small help!

Barb

Kimberly - posted on 11/14/2012

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Thankyou so much for your input. I feel the same way. If we look at it like a traffic light, i saw it as green and not yellow or red. My husband on the other hand, LOL looked at it like it was BLOOD RED and important at which it is, however, his behaviour is usually always good.



thanks again!

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