2 TEEN GIRLS.....:.HELP !!!!!!!

Alicia - posted on 09/27/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Ok, here it goes, I have 2 teenage daughters 13 & 15, I have taken their phones away, that was for several different reasons, 1st time they had back-talked w/phone in hand, then it led to other things ie, misuse of the Internet, talking & textin @ night, ( they've not had them for close to 2 years now) & I've also taken their I-pods, computers, & now they basically do nothing. . However 1 of them happens 2 be in SPORTS, so she gets what seems to be more freedom than my other daughter.
They've done chores w/ me since they've been knee-high 2 a grasshopper, & they both get AMAZING GRADES. They are actually great girls and have never been in any kind of trouble.
I hate it that both of them seem 2 not have a social life and they make comments that I do want them 2 have 1.
I keep telling them once they've done their chores w/o being told for a certain period of time, that they will get ALOT of their priveledges back, & more, (not the cell phones) like going places w/ friends, having friends over, having supervised time on the Internet. As a family we've been considering turning our HUGE FAMILY ROOM into a game room for the girls. This way their friends would be able to have a safe place 2 be w/ their buddies and we'd be to rest our minds knowing that our girls and everyone ARE SAFE AND HAPPY.
They want this. However they cannot seem to do their minimal chores for 2 weeks so that we can MOVE ON...... I want my girls to have a life !!!!! PLEASE HELP ME !!!!!
AM I BEING TOO HARD ON THEM ???
They are STUBBORN & I use to give in ALOT !!!!!!


Ok, Steph, I saw that your post is a few years old but I hope you see this and can HELP ME.
Ok, here it goes, I have 2 teenage daughters 13 & 15, I have taken their phones away, that was for several different reasons, 1st time they had back-talked w/phone in hand, then it led to other things ie, misuse of the Internet, talking & textin @ night, ( they've not had them for close to 2 years now) & I've also taken their I-pods, computers, & now they basically do nothing. However 1 if them happens 2 be in SPORTS, so she gets what seems to be more freedom than my other daughter.

They've done chores w/ me since they've been knee-high 2 a grasshopper, & they both get AMAZING GRADES. They are actually great girls and have never been in any kind of trouble.

I hate it that both of them seem 2 not have a social life and they make comments that I do want them 2 have 1.

I keep telling them once they've done their chores w/o being told for a certain period of time, that they will get ALOT of their priveledges back, (not the cell phones) like going places w/ friends, having friends over, having supervised time on the Internet. As a family we've even really been considering turning our HUGE FAMILY ROOM into a game room for the girls. This way their friends would be able to have a safe place 2 be w/ their buddies and we'd be to rest our minds knowing that our girls and everyone ARE SAFE AND HAPPY.

They want this. However they cannot seem to do their minimal chores for 2 weeks so that we can MOVE ON...... I want my girls to have a life !!!!! PLEASE HELP ME !!!!!

AM I BEING TOO HARD ON THEM ???






Ok, Steph, I saw that your post is a few years old but I hope you see this and can HELP ME.
Ok, here it goes, I have 2 teenage daughters 13 & 15, I have taken their phones away, that was for several different reasons, 1st time they had back-talked w/phone in hand, then it led to other things ie, misuse of the Internet, talking & textin @ night, ( they've not had them for close to 2 years now) & I've also taken their I-pods, computers, & now they basically do nothing. However 1 if them happens 2 be in SPORTS, so she gets what seems to be more freedom than my other daughter.

They've done chores w/ me since they've been knee-high 2 a grasshopper, & they both get AMAZING GRADES. They are actually great girls and have never been in any kind of trouble.

I hate it that both of them seem 2 not have a social life and they make comments that I do want them 2 have 1.

I keep telling them once they've done their chores w/o being told for a certain period of time, that they will get ALOT of their priveledges back, (not the cell phones) like going places w/ friends, having friends over, having supervised time on the Internet. As a family we've even really been considering turning our HUGE FAMILY ROOM into a game room for the girls. This way their friends would be able to have a safe place 2 be w/ their buddies and we'd be to rest our minds knowing that our girls and everyone ARE SAFE AND HAPPY.

They want this. However they cannot seem to do their minimal chores for 2 weeks so that we can MOVE ON...... I want my girls to have a life !!!!! PLEASE HELP ME !!!!!

AM I BEING TOO HARD ON THEM ???

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Amanda - posted on 10/01/2013

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Hello
I am new to this group I have 4 children ages 13,8,6 & 3 I have struggled for years with trying to figure out what to do with my 13 year old daughter they can be lazy at times and very mouthy but I have slowly started to learn that you have to pick your battles! not everything needs to be reprimanded it is hard to let go but at some point we need to let them fly on their own! they are good girls getting good grades and yes at their ages they should have a chore list use their phones as a allowance like once their chores are done then they may have their phones my 13year old has to bring her phone down everynight at 9:00pm and it stays plugged in all night until the next day I know some other mom's that have made rules that their phones go off before supper and stay off until the next day!
I encourage you not to be super strict and pray over them each and every day you have raised them right all we can do at times is pray! I find we as mothers struggle with trying so hard and then we feel like we are failing as mothers but we need to remember God isnt finished with us yet! he is still working in us to make us perfect in my bible study this morning it was talking about how we need to not get so hung up on striving to be perfect all the time and how that is God's job not ours we need to focus on doing our jobs and let God do his! SO I encourage you to pray over your girls each and every morning and let them know they are LOVED & Appreciated and that you as a mother are trying to raise them as young woman of God and they need to help and respect you and your decisions you have set out for them! I have found that over the past few months of me praying over my children and with my children has made a big difference!
Praying for you all the best & many blessings

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