2 TEEN GIRLS.....:.HELP !!!!!!!

Alicia - posted on 09/27/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Ok, here it goes, I have 2 teenage daughters 13 & 15, I have taken their phones away, that was for several different reasons, 1st time they had back-talked w/phone in hand, then it led to other things ie, misuse of the Internet, talking & textin @ night, ( they've not had them for close to 2 years now) & I've also taken their I-pods, computers, & now they basically do nothing. . However 1 of them happens 2 be in SPORTS, so she gets what seems to be more freedom than my other daughter.
They've done chores w/ me since they've been knee-high 2 a grasshopper, & they both get AMAZING GRADES. They are actually great girls and have never been in any kind of trouble.
I hate it that both of them seem 2 not have a social life and they make comments that I do want them 2 have 1.
I keep telling them once they've done their chores w/o being told for a certain period of time, that they will get ALOT of their priveledges back, & more, (not the cell phones) like going places w/ friends, having friends over, having supervised time on the Internet. As a family we've been considering turning our HUGE FAMILY ROOM into a game room for the girls. This way their friends would be able to have a safe place 2 be w/ their buddies and we'd be to rest our minds knowing that our girls and everyone ARE SAFE AND HAPPY.
They want this. However they cannot seem to do their minimal chores for 2 weeks so that we can MOVE ON...... I want my girls to have a life !!!!! PLEASE HELP ME !!!!!
AM I BEING TOO HARD ON THEM ???
They are STUBBORN & I use to give in ALOT !!!!!!






Ok, Steph, I saw that your post is a few years old but I hope you see this and can HELP ME.
Ok, here it goes, I have 2 teenage daughters 13 & 15, I have taken their phones away, that was for several different reasons, 1st time they had back-talked w/phone in hand, then it led to other things ie, misuse of the Internet, talking & textin @ night, ( they've not had them for close to 2 years now) & I've also taken their I-pods, computers, & now they basically do nothing. However 1 if them happens 2 be in SPORTS, so she gets what seems to be more freedom than my other daughter.

They've done chores w/ me since they've been knee-high 2 a grasshopper, & they both get AMAZING GRADES. They are actually great girls and have never been in any kind of trouble.

I hate it that both of them seem 2 not have a social life and they make comments that I do want them 2 have 1.

I keep telling them once they've done their chores w/o being told for a certain period of time, that they will get ALOT of their priveledges back, (not the cell phones) like going places w/ friends, having friends over, having supervised time on the Internet. As a family we've even really been considering turning our HUGE FAMILY ROOM into a game room for the girls. This way their friends would be able to have a safe place 2 be w/ their buddies and we'd be to rest our minds knowing that our girls and everyone ARE SAFE AND HAPPY.

They want this. However they cannot seem to do their minimal chores for 2 weeks so that we can MOVE ON...... I want my girls to have a life !!!!! PLEASE HELP ME !!!!!

AM I BEING TOO HARD ON THEM ???

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Sarah - posted on 10/04/2013

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2 years without a phone is a long time. I wish they didn't exist but maybe limiting use during the week and wkends with cut off time might be enough give so they don't lose all social contact...unfortunately its how they communicate with each other. And monitor their use...diligently. good luck!

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