A mom asked me today at what age should a teenage daughter use a tampoon what are you rthoughts out

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Sarah - posted on 10/15/2010

102

3

10

My daughter started her periods at 12, and she's still using pads. That's her choice. I've discussed tampons, and mooncups with her, but at the moment she prefers pads. When she chooses to use tampons or a mooncup, I'll support her in her decision. She's intelligent and old enough to make her own decisions.

Traci - posted on 08/06/2010

6

44

0

I personlly started my period when I was ten, horrified my mom made me use those darn strap and pad things, OMG what a memory I'd like to throw away, but at ten? tampons, I can't even imagine that soon my 8 year old daughter could be... well anyways, my answer I feel is that at anytime when a girl is at age, a tampon may be used, but I like 12 or 13 really if the child wants to try tampons, she should be the one to decide and mommy there to help her... influence to use or not use its a peronal choice within the family, I guess. Goodluck

Eronne - posted on 09/14/2010

125

11

15

This question has been well-answered by I'm surprised by the references to the hymen in this day and age. All mom's should know that the absence of a hymen does not equate to the loss of virginity and as bizarre as it sounds some hymens stay intact after intercourse. A hymen can be elastic enough that only a doctor can perforate it. It can also be lost from bicycling, diving, horseback riding, tampon use, self-exploration, accidents and countless other ways. If a young women chooses not to have sex she should still have pelvic exams and that would be the end of the hymen. It is an ancient and sexist way to assess a woman's virtue and not something we should pass on to our daughters.

Jane - posted on 08/03/2010

1,041

5

69

Why does this question come up so often? It's hygiene for goodness sakes. As soon as a girl starts her period, she should be able to choose which type of femine protection she is most comfortable with. They need to learn the proper use of a tampon but I'm not sure there is an "AGE" when they should be allowed to use them.

Holly - posted on 10/26/2010

29

10

0

I have a 13 year old and she thinks tampons are gross, but I think that is because she isn't comfortable with her maturing body quite yet. I think it depends on what the teenager would like to do and how comfortable they are with their body.

41 Comments

View replies by

Stephanie - posted on 08/13/2013

5

21

0

I have a 15 yr old that started 3 yrs ago and a 14 yr old that start about 9 months ago, both think tampons are gross. I think that if they wanted to use them a 16 it would be ok.

Jodie - posted on 11/30/2010

123

19

4

16 is good age,but it does depend on the kid themself,as for the first time user,it can hurt,why inserting it.if shes ready,and you are ok with it,all you can do is guide her and help with the process,as i had to help my 16yr old for the first time.it may hurt her,the first time,and she may wont to wait,respect that of her,its all about how comfortable she feels,just do whats best for ya girl.all the best.

[deleted account]

When/if she is comfortable and ready to try? Educate her and yourself on the use and safety issues!!!

Danielle - posted on 10/26/2010

11

69

2

Hey Stephanie! I was really interested in ur post, because my daughter will be 13 very soon & I told her she had to wait til she's grown, because they are painful!! I personally never liked tampons & we both use pads.

Tina - posted on 10/26/2010

53

27

6

I started my period when I was 10 years old...My friends older sisters told me about tampons, but my grandmother insisted she show me the pads..and then let me make my descion. Well the pads were very unconfortable and just did not feel right, so I started using tampons at age 10... right or wrong? It was the right choice for me..My daughter wore pads for years, then later decided to use tampons. Good Luck!

Karen - posted on 10/26/2010

9

13

0

I started at the age of 12. My mom told me I couldn't use tampons and found it funny to buy the biggest pads for me that felt like I was wearing a diaper. It was very embarrassing. So when she wasn't home I grabbed her tampons and helped myself. By the time she figured out I was using hers I started buying my own. The point is, It's her hygiene, her comfort. Give her the choice and it will show her that you love her no matter what she decides. Tell her what you prefer, and tell her the pros and cons of tampons vs. pads. (I can't think of any pros for pads but that's just me) inform her about the risks of tampons because it will be her responsibility to use them correctly. Best of Luck to your friend!

Pam - posted on 10/22/2010

4

0

1

My kids are swimmers too. So, by their 2nd period, they were given a box of slender tampons and told to practice to their hearts content. My oldest was going thru tampons like crazy. When I asked her what was up she said "Mom, you have no idea how many of my friends Mom's have never shown them how to use tampons. So, I give them mine."

Gena - posted on 10/21/2010

8

32

1

I think that a teenage girl should be as comfortable during her menstrual cycle as possible and do whatever they feel safest with. I think in most cases, the girls would choose pads. When I was a teen, I was offered the choice. After trying one tampon, I didnt' like the discomfort and stayed with pads till my 20's. My daughter does not like tampons either. So, I would say...offer her the first choice as a young adult. Helps empower her at the same time helps her appreciate her body.

Jennifer - posted on 10/14/2010

14

4

1

My daughter started her period at 14.I let her decide what she was comfortable with. She wanted pads so I bought them for her. By the end of her first period she wanted to use tampons. She tried them and felt more comfortable with them so thats what I bought her. I really think its their choice as its their body and its already a hard enough transition in life without adding discomfort to the mix. Just make sure they have all the information on how to use them safely and let them decide.

Kerri - posted on 10/13/2010

27

15

1

My oldest did not start until she was 14 yo, but when she did I simply bought her a box of both. She's not over thrilled with either option, but as a cheerleader she has times when a tampon is preferred to a pad.

Rita_2_davey - posted on 09/14/2010

105

50

10

I honestly think it would be up to the daughter. How long has she had her period? Is she afraid of using a tampon? Her daughter has to make that choice and learn how to use one. Tell her to ask her daughter if she feels comfortable about talking about it. I know myself at first I wasn't comfortable with a tampon and used the pads instead until I got a little braver. Most girls' these days go right to the tampon instead of the pad, however it has to be her daughters' choice. I don't think its a question of how old, I think its a question of how comfortable her daughter would feel using one. If her daughter is open for discussion on this, she should ask her daughter how she feels about it. Only her daughter can answer this. It seems obvious that its the mom who wants her to use a tampon but if shes' not ready its not going to happen.
I do hope your friend understands this. Good Luck!!

Tracy - posted on 09/13/2010

207

5

2

I think it's a personal choice at any age. Just let her know what options are available to use and explain how each work. Make sure she understands how important it is to remember to use them appropriately and change them often. Aside from that, I can't imagine why this would be anyone else's choice. I mean, think of it in reverse - what if you preferred pads but you were made to use tampons. And the idea that using a tampon somehow de-virginizes you is ridiculous.

Cari - posted on 09/08/2010

11

1

0

I just realized my daughter was using them only because she stopped having me buy her pads about a month ago. She will be 15 in a week.

Jodie - posted on 08/17/2010

8

25

1

i would say when the daughter feels ready then let her . But to use regualr or the mini/ slims educate her on the side effects of toxic syndrome get her the ones that will show her how to insert them but mostly be open and free to answer any questions she has about them.. i personaly was 15 when i started to use tampons and found it daughting at first but not now i do still use them but when going to bed i do use the sanitary pads

Marilyn - posted on 08/16/2010

2

28

0

Whenever she feels comfortable doing that. My sister in law has used them ever since she started her period(many, many years ago). I didn't start until after I had my first child. My daughter(14) prefers pads.

Maria - posted on 08/16/2010

1,068

123

3

Personally, it's a personal preference and comfort. As long as she understands the consequences that go with using tampons and diligent about changing every so often when called for, then there shouldn't be any problem, specially when your daughter is physically active as in sports activities.

Kimberley - posted on 08/12/2010

76

35

0

The Tampon caused issues for me and with all the women in my family that have issues with gyno, I know it isn't a right thing for my daughter, plus the doctor told her not to use one as I told her that as well. :)

Jane - posted on 08/12/2010

1,041

5

69

@Kimberley - I'm just curious why? Never is such a strong opinion over a tampon. I understand that you say it wasn't for YOU but why would you not let your 15 year old daughter choose what she likes best? She probably would refuse because of your strong feelings about it. Again, I'm really just curious why you feel so strongly about it.

Kimberley - posted on 08/12/2010

76

35

0

never! that is just my opinion. I wouldn't allow my 15 yr old to use one. I did once as a teenager and it just wasn't for me. My daughter would refuse to use one anyways, but everyone has their own opinion. This is just mine.

[deleted account]

Its a personal preference. Hygiene is better with a tampon so I told my daughter about them early on and she chose to use them. It should be up to the girl, just be open and honest with her about it.

[deleted account]

I used to use tampons but starting becoming ill every month I would use them so the doctors adviced not to use them. So, for me I wouldn't suggest them using tampons. If it became a necessity, ie. sports, or activities then I would have to say between 13 & 14 years old.

Tess - posted on 08/09/2010

4

14

0

I think it should be what your daughter is comfortable with. My daughter is 15 & a competitive cheerleader. Tampons just make sense. She just recently started using them though. She used the bulky pads for several years while cheering without complaining. Her teammate was the one who introduced them to her and she felt more comfortable tumbling with them. So that's what she uses now. Comfort should be the key.

Karen - posted on 08/08/2010

58

42

2

I pretty much left the decision up to my daughter. That's how I got started!

Ramona - posted on 08/07/2010

292

1

37

My dd has always played sports, so she has used one since she started her period. There is nothing bad that will happen to a young lady who chooses this option.

Gina - posted on 08/07/2010

31

60

1

My daughters haven't started yet. They are 12 and 10. However, my 12 year old has a friend that started her cycle last year and she uses tampons. I've actually never used tampons myself. Guess I'm old school. LOL

Betsy - posted on 08/06/2010

20

8

1

i think that at age 13 is a good age. but only for swimming.Just teach hr how to put one in the correct way. and make sure she does not leave it in too long. or forget its in.

Eronne - posted on 08/04/2010

125

11

15

I'd suggest she'd be menstruating first....kidding but seriously as with most of the comments this is a hygiene issue and if she's old enough to need one, she's old enough to make her own choice. Information is so important and its a beautiful time to share with your daughter. Talk to her about everything and be excited with her about the changes that are happening

Aliska - posted on 08/04/2010

170

6

21

I agree 100% with Jane. This is the girl's choice. Let her use what she feels most comfortable with after she's been given all the information about what's available.

Janeane - posted on 08/03/2010

4

16

0

I would leave it up to her. I have a 19 year old who started using tampons when she was 14. My younger daughter is 14 and does not want to use tampons, and that is fine. I really think this is a personal choice, and telling a girl what she has to use, or what she can not use..is setting up a conflict that is so unnecessary.

Theresa - posted on 08/02/2010

1,310

22

236

I was on the swim team in school so I needed to use them. Kind of hard to tell the team "Sorry I can't compete this week because I have my period." It's not that big of a deal to use them.

Jane - posted on 08/02/2010

274

77

50

For me, it was "when she wants to". Because I have much bigger battles to fight, and I hated pads, myself.

Use the "Slender Regular" size designed for virgins, and the hymen should remain intact.

Karen M. - posted on 08/01/2010

7

33

1

It is a very individual preference. My mom only used pads, I use both, and my daughter prefers tampons. Both my daughter and I started to use tampons around age 14 (hymen still intact). Just be open with your conversation and let your daughter know that you are available for advice. Good luck.

Anne Marie - posted on 08/01/2010

116

7

6

I think every circumstance is different. My daughter is very much into swimming, competitively so she has started using them very early but to me I would rather her use them than contaminate a pool. Why deprive them of an activity they love to do which is a wonderful opportunity for them physically, emotionally, personally as it does wonders for her self esteem. (sometimes too much self esteem, she is better than everyone else, including me). Like I said it may not be for everyone this early but I let her almost right away as she was swimming before she got her period.

Evon - posted on 07/31/2010

4

7

0

When my daughters started thier period I just introduced them to what I was using. Then my youngest daughter discoverd tampons and she wanted to use them. I told her when she got a job she can buy what she wanted. So it was about 16 when she started to use them.

Stephanie - posted on 07/31/2010

0

0

1

personally i dont think they should use them until they are grown, but just curious what other moms think

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms