Abandoned 16 year pregnant girlfriend

Alison - posted on 08/24/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My nephew got his 16 year old girlfriend pregnant and has now abandoned her. How can I help her now that she has found out that she's pregnant she's very scared and doesn't know what to do. My nephew has decided he wants nothing to do with her but I feel that I am partly responsible for this situation due to the fact the boy is part of my family. Any ideas how I can help?

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Alison - posted on 09/14/2015

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His mum has been parenting my nephew and his brother and she was copying reasonably well until she was diagnosed with bipolar. Often the boys are left to look after themselves. I guess I feel partly responsible because I have a son of my own and I have kids of my own. I just want him to take responsibility for the situation and do the right thing.

Alison - posted on 08/24/2015

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I didn't know they were sexually active until my nephew boasted that he'd got his girlfriend pregnant. I'm not sure if he did know the risks involved as his mum has bipolar and struggles to manage herself let alone the boys. His dad isn't on the scene and is hopeless. I asked Doug if he would talk to James about the situation and see if he can get through to him.

Raye - posted on 08/24/2015

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You are not partly responsible unless you knew they were having sex and concealed the information and/or didn't help explain to him the risks involved. It's nice of you to want to help. The only thing you can do is reach out to the girl and let her know you want to help her if you can. Don't make promises about what you can do for her unless you know you can back it up, and don't let her take too much if you don't have that much to give. Make sure she knows you can't change your nephew's mind, but that you will talk to him if he wants to talk to you about the situation.

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