adhd and odd teen - planning to kick him out as soon as he turns 18

Camvalerie2 - posted on 08/23/2016 ( 8 moms have responded )

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i have always been struggling dealing with my adhd & odd son. but since he turned 15 he got worsee. stopped going to school started drugs. it was easier when he was going to therapy. since he turned 15 he started using drugs and alcohol. tried programs, court, therapy. you cant help someone who doesnt think there is a problem. had to put him in a residential he had ppl living in my home doing drugs & minor girls too. he just got out of residential and had another underage girl in home & fiends doing drugs in home. i yelled at him. when i left the house he left the water on so my house would be flooded when i got back. he will be 18 in 44 days and i plan to kick him out even his mentor gave up on him cuz he would travel from a distance and he wouldnt get the door. i love my son but he has gotta go. no response need i just need to vent i am counting down the days.

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Snowangel97 - posted on 08/25/2016

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Oh Joy, it sounds like you've done so much to help him and I'm impressed with how you're handling the situation. You have a point about him probably understanding better, once he's an "adult" and on his own. I know Focus on the Family has counselors you can talk to free of charge (855-382-5433). It might be worth giving them a call or keeping the number for him, when and if he is ready to talk to someone again. I will keep you both in my prayers and hope everything works out! Keep your head up, momma!

Snowangel97 - posted on 08/24/2016

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Oh sweetie! I'm sorry your family is going through such a rough time. The teenage years are never easy and it sounds like you have your hands full. You mentioned that it was easier when he was in therapy. Was it like a counselor or full residential ( live in) therapy? Would he be open to going back if you all sat down and had a heart to heart about how you feel and what his behavior is doing to the family? I will pray for your family!

Socalpoppy - posted on 08/26/2016

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I finally realized that odd meant ODD, a mental health diagnosis. At first I thought you were just calling him "odd", the word, and thought it strange. I looked it up and understand better how hard it has been for you. It really does sound like you have tried "everything". I think Focus on the Family is a great resource, too. I'm glad Snowangel mentioned it. I hope he chooses to get help soon, too.

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Camvalerie2 - posted on 08/26/2016

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i pray for him alot but he is becoming to dangerous to stay past 18. i hope he finds peace and gets the help he needs wherever he lives i will always try to help.and be there. i thank everyone for their supportive words and understanding.

Camvalerie2 - posted on 08/25/2016

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i did everything in mentor, hone therapy, family counseling, individual counseling, group therapy, in house residential, child requiring assistance, medication. actually the meds and therapy helped alot but legally yoou cant force them to take meds and he refused to go to therapy and when i made him go he just sat there and said nothing so that didnt work. i even did home schooling so he could stay focused and not get suspended the whole year. if you mix adhd odd and being a teen its a like living with a tornado. he is 18 soon so at this point he will need to want to get help. i think once he gets on his own he will understand more. i know i did. i just pray for him.

Camvalerie2 - posted on 08/25/2016

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its the boundfaries that really makes it worse. but i am not budging. he thinks if he acts up enough i will change my mind but that is not happening so he gets worse but i jwalk away when he starts to cuss. he just ask me if i could give him some money since he apologized. i want to say oh hell to the no. but i just said no and that he knows why and walked away. the back and forth thing serves no purpose. he is intelligent. he knows what he did. thanks for the input. its good that someone understands.

Eager - posted on 08/23/2016

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Hi, Joy! Whether you realize it or not, your son’s behavior is increasingly common and I am so sorry to hear about what you’re going through with him. I know how painful it must be for you to see your son addicted to drugs. I feel setting appropriate boundaries with your son like you said might be a good solution. I wish I could hug you right now, but I’ll certainly be praying for you! May God surround you with His perfect peace and lead you during this time. Hugs!

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