Advice how to deal with a stepdaughter who lives with me and my husband.she turned 18 and she seems to think she dont have to ask to go out or stay home from school.she do not show me any respect.everything is allways geared to her dad she act like I dont exist.what do I do?

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User - posted on 07/04/2012

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I have a 18 year old stepdaughter,I just kicked her out.She had no respect for me,has trashed the lovely room I made up for her when she moved in.
she is dirty lazy and disrespectfull and a liar to boot.
anyway to get to the point,just having her in the house was making me feel ill and angry,so i thought this girl doesnt give a damn about anything or anyone and shes not worth wasting my energy on,it was either her or me leaving,and I thought im not moving out because of a lazy good for nothing.
she does have a job and she can go live with other pigs just like herself.

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Peggyann - posted on 05/01/2012

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There isn't really much you can do, she's 18 and needs her freedom. You could go up to her and ask her why she is acting like that, you could tell her that you are there and always willing to listen and that she doesn't always have to go to her dad.

Sharon - posted on 05/01/2012

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Talk with your husband and see if you can get his support. It is hard when they turn 18, they thing they are adults and can do what they want. I told my kids early on, that is not when you turn 18 you are independent but when you are self supporting. I do give them some slack and try treat them more like adults but when they still live at my house they have to follow certain rules. It is just respectful. If they want to be independent and do they own thing, then do it ALL the way, move out, get a job and then you can what you want to do. Like my dad always said, independence comes with a price. I do wish you the best and hope it gets resolved.

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