Any advice on dealing with Internet porn and teenage sons?

Tara - posted on 12/18/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I don't like having these conversations with my sons but having left it to their father for years, I now have one who is addicted so am desperate to protect the other one. I already have super effective software but phones, friends and relatives computers are outside my influence. Any advice anyone?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/19/2012

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How about you quit letting their father handle it, and step up to the parenting plate yourself?

Why don't you like having "these" conversations with your sons?

Personally, I started having conversations about things of this nature (sex, nudity, porn) with my sons when they were old enough to start asking questions. And, yes, my husband (their father) did as well. Parenting is a job for both parents. It doesn't work so well when one is too squeamish to handle a situation, leaving the whole deal to the other parent. Co parenting is awesome!

Your point of view is important to your children. They need to know that porn objectifies women, it degrades women, and it IS NOT REAL LIFE. They need to understand that their girlfriend is most definitely NOT going to let them do what they see in the porn, and that they would be extremely disrespectful to the females of society to treat them as sexual objects. You need to connect with both of your kids on this subject. Let them know what's appropriate, what's not, what will be accepted behaviour in your home, what won't, and the consequences for not heeding the house rules.

ALL teens get curious about porn. It's all in how YOU as the parent handle it. If you don't like the way that your husband has handled it (and it sounds like you don't), then step up and have the conversation yourself

Set The Right Example For Your - posted on 12/19/2012

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Trolling? It's natural for many teens to get addicted to porn. You can't stop it, no matter how hard you try... maybe just get the father to tell him he will get in serious trouble if you find out he lets the younger one see his porn....

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