Best birth control for daughter

Leesa - posted on 06/26/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Hi just wanted to get some advice, I have a 15 year
Old sd who lives with us full time. She has a boyfriend
And we are very close. She has said she isn't ready for sex
Yet but I want to make sure she is safe if and when it
Happens. Like most teens she isn't very responsible for
Her stuff and I don't know if birth control pill would
Be a good idea due to her forgetting to take it. But
Also the other options depo shot etc seem to have bad
Sign effects I don't want my daughter to have to go
Through. I have never taken birth control pills
Myself so is she protected as soon as she takes them?
What if she forgets? I am going to make an
Appointment with our doctor but just wanted to
Know what everyone else thinks. Yes I know a 15
Year old girl shouldn't be having sex and like I
Said she has stated she's not ready but like
Everyone knows things happen and I don't want
Her ending up pregnant, she understands
She would still need condoms for stds but I think
I'm doing the right thing in protecting her

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Enna - posted on 06/27/2013

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If you haven't already, just tell her that you'll take her to the doctor when she's ready. Obviously there are girls her age and younger having sex, so it's not like it's going to be a huge surprise to her that you're concerned about her becoming pregnant. Also, for the same reason, putting her on birth control isn't going to make her more likely to do it. If she has a boyfriend, then odds are that she's had chances to have sex if she felt like it. It's not like birth control is going to suddenly make her realize it's an option. There are condoms, and kids know that, so sex has "always" been an option.
Birth control pills will work if she remembers them, most of the time (I got pregnant while on birth control pills, and I took them every day.) I thought the best method was NuvaRing. It's this plastic ring that you insert, and you leave it in until your next period, then switch it with a new one. It can be expensive depending on your insurance. But you can't really forget it. Implants and shots are both terrible ideas for a young girl. Implants are meant for older women who have kids. Shots are just too much chemicals being put in a girls system, and makes them more likely to bleed at other times than their period. My step-sister bled constantly while her mom had her going in for BC shots. She wasn't even having sex, and she had to go through that because her mom wanted to be sure she wouldn't get pregnant. Let your daughter talk to the doctor, and help her decide what's right for her, and check with your insurance.

Shelley - posted on 06/26/2013

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Providing her with birth control even when she isn't ready is going to give her a reason to if she doesn't already have one to have sex. But if you are going to provide her with birth control, she at least needs to be responsible enough to remember to take it. It's likely from what you said she might lose it, forget to take it and become pregnant. One missed pill means a whole week you can be at risk for pregnancy if you have sex. I would never recommend the shot, your body is meant to have a period every month and stopping it isn't good for a young girl. I had a friend that did the shot. Because she didn't have her period for 3 months, she didn't know she was pregnant and it so happened she was on medication you can't take when you're pregnant. She got pregnant in the beginning and had a miscarriage almost three months into her pregnancy that she had no idea about. You aren't protected as soon as you take them, birth control contains hormones that takes your body time to adjust to where it kicks in. Even if your daughter is taking birth control, she can still get pregnant. Most likely she will ditch the condoms if she has birth control and be at risk. The main point is, if she isn't responsible enough to keep track of her stuff or remember every time, it won't even be effective for her to take it. There is the option of the patch, but it costs way more and you only change it once a week. You place it somewhere like on your butt/hip area where a swimsuit will cover it.

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Janet - posted on 07/09/2013

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The depo shot I would NOT recommend. My 15yr old had her first dose Aril 2013, mainly to regulate periods and control cramps. After 4weeks of being on it, she while in school had such severe cramps and was passing globs of tissue. Even though the shots lasts 3 months in the system her GYN immediately started her on the pill (Loestrin 1.5mg ) this has made a world of difference and she is no longer bleeding everyday and spotting. No bad cramps and has done a world of wonders w/ her attitude (in a good way).

Leesa - posted on 06/28/2013

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Thanks Roxane, I just spoke to her yesterday
And she told me she isn't ready yet to have sex
So I said maybe when u are closer to being ready
We will go to the doctor and find out the best
Options and she seems fine with that. Thank u for
Your advice I agree needles and implants
Are a bit scary to make a 14 nearly 15 year old
Girl to deal with considering she isn't having sex
Yet. I just worry about her she means a lot to
Me and I treat her like my own children

Leesa - posted on 06/28/2013

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Thanks Evelyn, yes she's aware of everything I
Have spoken to her and I believe she is a smart
Girl I just know things sometimes happen so
I want her to be safe just incase. Her bio mother
Got preg with her sister when she was only 14
She doesn't have a very good relationship with
Her bio mom and has said many times she doesn't
Ever want to be like her and have a baby so
Young so I'm hoping she will make the right
Choice

Leesa - posted on 06/26/2013

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Thank u Shelley, I didn't even think of what u said
That if she has birth control than she might be
More wanting to try sex that's a good point but also
As her boyfriend is older by one year and has already
Had sex before it worries me about her becoming
Pregnant. I know she's not responsible as she has
Asthma and is always loosing her puffer so taking the
Pill wouldn't work. I have seen the implant but
Looking at it on u tube it looks really bad. Her mother
Apparently asked her doctor and he said for her age
The pill is most effective but I don't think so. Just really
Worried as she has spent the nite at her boyfriends house
I might add I would never allow this but her dad said it
Was ok I told her if she was my bio daughter their would be
No way in hell I would let her stay at her boyfriends but
Her dad seems to think we need to trust her I agree but
I told him its on his head if she ends up preg

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