birth control..

Daisy - posted on 11/10/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




One of my daughter friends has had sex I heard her ask "what was it like?"...shoud i just b/c she inquired about it put her on birth control? Would You? ....Mind you we talked about the whole sex stuff ,but what would you do


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Kimberly - posted on 11/13/2009




How old is she? I would go ahead & start her on the pill first or whichever method you think best. Most GYN's prefer to start that way. You may just say that you knw some of her friends are active & if the situation should ever come up for her that it would be best to be prepared but this doesn't mean you ar saying it's ok to have sex or that you are giving her permission to. You could even come up w/ other reasons for putting her on it. The pill helps to regulate periods, alleviate cramps or lessen them in some cases & regulate hormones. I had to put my daughter on birth control at 14. Which is when I found out she had become sexually active. A lot of girls give in to peer pressuree. eveen the strongest cave sometimes. I will warn you tho, there is a atch 22. At 16,a child is legally able to decide if she wants to take birth control. Even tho, as parents we are responsible for everything the child does up till they're 18. It's pretty messed up. I told my daughter that she will take bith control till she's 18. Sometimes she argues about it. But I tell her it's in her best interest as well a for the unborn child & explain the difficulties teenage mothers face. Good luck!


Donna - posted on 11/13/2009




I'm not so sure I would put her on birth control at this point. The problem is that birth control doesn't cover "everything" that can happen when a person has sex. I'm sure she ask because she was curious, and I'm sure the reply was not the entire truth about how the first time was. Sometimes teenage friends don't want to be the only one who has had the same experience, so they make it sound better than it was.

I would just talk to her again about how important it is to be able to help a baby grow into a healthy adult, and how hard that is if you are a young mother yourself. (I was a young mother who was fortunate enough to have a strong family support system.) Also, sometimes when teens don't understand anything else, they understand the cost of things. It is amazing to me that if you ask a teen how much they think feeding an infant, clothing a little one, ect. costs, they don't know. If you think it is best for your daughter, sit her down and price everything out for her. It works better than you think.

You sound like you are a very involved mother, and so I'm sure she knows what your expectations for her are. Expectations are a powerful thing. Just point out over and over and over what she is good at, what she can do with her life, whatever it is. I hope it all goes well for you and your daughter.

August - posted on 11/10/2009




I feel that even as we as adults ask about how s-thing was are/like.No matter what's it's in reference too.So don't jump the gun.You know ur daughter.Go with ur gut.If u feel that it's time and/or u c a change in her.Then do what u feel is best.It will also put ur mind at peace.Talk to her.Remember we are all ladies.Remember when u were her age.Yes times has changed but we r still ladies and don't know e-thing.Listen to her.Listen to ur heart.GOOD LUCK

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