Lisa - posted on 01/25/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )




how do i help my daughter get over her first heartbreak???


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Allie - posted on 01/29/2010




well I remember what my mom did for me and that was she sat on my bed let me cry it out and talked with me. She told me about her first lost love and knowing that happens to your parents too makes you feel a little better. Then you gloss it up and let her know how pretty she is and that the boy missed out on a wonderful person.

Mary - posted on 01/28/2010




Seriously, if they are in 6th grade or in high school... the pain is the same to them. My daughter was in 6th grade. We went to the mall, bought a grand new outfit, from shirt to shoes, had her hair trimmed and styled and a manicure. She went to school feeling like a million bucks. That that stupid boy!!

Shannon - posted on 01/27/2010




Talk to her, relate a story of heartbreak from when you were a teen, help her to understand that this happens in life and is okay.

Christine - posted on 01/27/2010




Try a girls night out or even a girls night in. You can even have her invite a few of her girl friends or have it just be you two. Manicures, pedicures, makeovers, chick flicks, out to dinner and a movie...something fun you two would enjoy together. Try to avoid giving her "mom advice" and if she asks for advice give her "girl advice" I remember being a kid and my mom you want a mom answer or a girl answer.

Kimberly - posted on 01/26/2010




just listen and let her cry on your shoulder. no judgements or opinons. go out for or movies anything to just spend quality time and let her know you are there.

it is about her and if she wants advice or to know how you handled your she will ask. it is about her real broken heart even if you or others do not feel it is a big deal or real love.

Shelly - posted on 01/26/2010





Going through the same thing with out 18 yr old son...All youn can do is be there when thier ready to talk or cry or yell just remember she will survive it...The nonly time you should step in the middle of it is if she starts harming herself or she totally withdraws from you and her friends...Other wise just let her set the pace...

Anna - posted on 01/26/2010




Have a pitty party. Let her talk, share with her things you did to move on from a break up, watch a sappy movie, cry, and then do something active like a run or walk. it may not hurt to encourage her to find a new activity, like a nightly walk with you, to help her heart mend.

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That is a hard one. Usually it is remembered for much longer than we'd like. I think saying things such as, "it will get better..or you will meet another person that will treat you better, or the pain does go away"; you are just sounding like a MOM..[God forbid] that she thinks NEVER went thru this and can't possibly understand. Soooo, my advice would be to just be there to listen and try to distract her by shopping, or going out to eat, etc.. She is missing that boy and his company and the last thing she needs is a rebound relationship. I hope this helps. Thank GOD I have boys!

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