Can you let a 17.5 yr old move out with parental consent?

Janet - posted on 06/22/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have 17.5 yr old son and we don't get along at all. He can be a good kid but i rarely see it. He does work hard. But he is a pig. He is all the time treating me like crap, cusses at me, won't do anything i ask, and now things are starting to get physical. He has not hit me yet, but i can see it getting there or me smacking him then he hitting me harder. Hes much taller and lots stronger than me so i can't really do anything. His father does not do anything but give him what he wants. He wants to be pals with all the kids instead of being the parent which makes me the bad person all the time. I am so tired of the constant fighting and the way he treats me. I grew up with abuse and my kids never seen it but i cant deal with it anymore. Hes also making it come between my husband and me. I tried making a councling apt but all of them have better things to do so there went that. I feel like bad parent for wanting him to move out. I did not want this and have been tring but its not working. In indiana i saw something said they can move out with parental consent does anyone know if this is true?


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Kristin - posted on 06/22/2012




My son who is 16 had anger towards me as well and we now talk things out calmly and rationaly, I live in Canada and our laws are that yes a child can move out on his or her own with parental consent. I have learnt to compromise with my teen son and to pick and choose my battles. If his room is a disaster (which it is) i dont say a word, he lives in it not me, however he has chores to do and he cleans his messes up in the rest of the house. You and your husband also need to get on the same page on how to deal with your angry teen. He is his father not friend and strict guidelines need to be placed. I give my teen son a lot of freedom and let him make his own choices, however he also knows that if he makes a bad choice he has to deal with the consequences and if he doesnt do what I ask him to do I start taking away privledges Ie cell phone, computer, goiong out etc. I also spend a lot of time talking to my teen and find that communication is one of the best things a parent can do with their teens. This is the age where teens are becoming young adults and are in the process of finding out who they are, what they want, and independence. If your son wont go to counselling, than try talking to him. Ask him why he is angry at you and why he doesnt listen or respect you? You may be surprised at what he may tell you. And always always let your child know that no matter what you love them, but you will not tolerate them disrespecting you. Good luck

Louise - posted on 06/22/2012




I think you need legal family advice about this. Your son is still a minor and you are responsible for him until he is either 18 or 21 depending on where you live. If things have gone to the point that you want him out of your house then may be finding another family member to take him would be better until both sides can have some councelling or mediation to get things back on track.

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