caught my son with several porn magazines ....

Melanie - posted on 06/30/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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caught my 12 y.o. son with several porn mags which he says he got from a "guy at school" any ideas on protocol? i haven't taken them away yet and briefly talked to him about it but am looking for some good lead ins and pointers

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Leslie - posted on 09/11/2013

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If he's 12, he's growing past being a child. He already knows about these things so I have no idea why you are so mad. Children are much more intuitive than you think.

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Leslie - posted on 09/11/2013

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Honestly this is ridiculous. Men will have porn, ALL men will. It's natural and they are different to women. If you think that they don't need it, trust me it's healthier that they do than don't. If your son doesn't know what sex is by at least 10 years old, than he's either lying (because people at school talk about it from 9 years old) or there's a serious problem. Kids should be informed and there should be a secret about sex because the child will end up socially awkward the more you shelter from him. I just feel that it's unhealthy to shelter anything from a child if they will end up learning about it in the future anyways.

Ellen - posted on 07/02/2010

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I agree with most of the replies so far. Take the magazines away and talk to your son about why these magazines are not appropriate. Let him know you understand his curiosity and the changes he is going thru. I had a similar problem with my 12 year old son and I did sit him down and talk to him. It seems to have worked and my son seems to feel more comfortable talking to me about such personal things now. Good luck.

Autumn - posted on 07/02/2010

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kids are growing much too fast. looks like you have delt well so far! In my case with 4 boys here...I HAVE discussed my worry about the younger children being exposed to it. I have also looked through the material they have in their possesion and have discussed what is not so bad or what goes too far...that will depend on how you yourself feel about the treatment of women. The fact is as most of us know..our children will be exposed to many things...alot of them unacceptable to us parents...LOL I think I remember my first reaction was taking away the pictures they had gotten and gave them a lingerie magazine...lol..You seem to be doing pretty good following your own gut!

Angie - posted on 06/30/2010

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The very first thing I'd do is take them away while I decided how to deal with it. I wouldn't want him to become exposed to them even more than he already was or to have time to hide them where I'd never be able to find them. Then I'd talk to him about respect for women. I tell my son that he should never treat or use a woman in a way he wouldn't treat his mother or grandmother.

Jennifer - posted on 06/30/2010

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i would say sit down with him and explain that while you understand he is going thru changes and he is curious about such things that that type of material is not an appropriate source of information for him and that it is not a good thing to have in the home especially if he has younger siblings. tell him if he has question talk to his father or other male rolemodels in his life. they will be able to answer his questions adequately. hope this helps *hugs*

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