Nancy - posted on 12/22/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have a daughter who is about to turn 14..As a single mom, I face the usual financial struggles, but we do our best and she rarely has to "go without". She loves art and photography and is proving herself to be quite talented. One thing she has asked for is a Nikon camera with interchangeable lenses. This, of course, would be an investment but, after giving it a lot of thought, I decided it would be money well spent and, after doing some research, purchased a Nikon that i think will fit her needs.. I got it about a month ago and have been anxoiusly looking forward to the surprise and excitement when she opens it on Christmas morning! Christmas is in just 2 days and the camera is wrapped and ready.. Today, she had a friend over and they were talking about gifts.. In the midst of the conversation, she turned to me and said, "well, I know one thing I'm getting - the camera I want". I was stunned!! And devastated! Instead of the surprise and excitement I had been anticipating, I find out, 2 days before Christmas, that she was just expecting it!! Now, I feel like I am being the dramatic teenager, but I feel like Christmas is ruined and I just want to cry!! Ever since I was a child, Christmas was all about the surprises, not the expectations, under the tree. Any thoughts on how I can deal ith this and still make Christmas morning special?


Shannon - posted on 12/23/2013




Yes, just take a deep breathe and let it go. She isn't ruining your Christmas you are ruining your Christmas and hers if you don't let it be. It seems she is very excited and enjoy her while she opens it. You can always rush out today and find some little inexpensive things to wrap up. Also, you could make a little book of tickets for photography excursions. An example would be. 1 ticket for an afternoon at the nearest state park and include on the ticket a url for a website that has some how to's on nature photography. Another one could be 1 ticket for downtown at night then on the ticket a url on How To take city night pictures. Enjoy!


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Rhonda - posted on 12/23/2013




Shannon is right, you took the gift you gave your daughter and gave it a potential for gratification for you, instead of her. It's the "what's in it for me?" mindset that many parents have. Giving is about giving, without regard of what it means for you. Feel the pride and satisfaction of going through the trouble of creatively finding, affording and providing exactly what your daughter wanted this Christmas. You did that!!!!! All out of love for your kid!! Feel good about that. I love the gift ideas that Shannon spoke about, they add the opportunity to make great memories, as well as encourage your daughter to pursue her passion.

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