Creative ways to get your point across to teens......?

Miranda - posted on 10/18/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )




My children 7, 11 and 13 are a handful for sure. My two boys (the oldest and youngest) have ADHD. I just wanted to know others opinions on punishments. I know this a weird thing to ask but tell me some of your most creative ways to get thru to your kids about lying, homework completion, chores, stealing, hitting, not smoking etc. I have had it all in my house and I am it for them. Their father is an alcoholic and is around when he is around and sober. They are already in counseling and we have already worked on breathing techniques and chore lists and consequences charts. I just need some ideas because I am running dry on them.


Indya - posted on 10/18/2011




Well, it sounds like you are on the right track with them being in counseling. I would say continue to do the things you are doing with the charts. Kids with ADHD benefit greatly from things being externalized so they can have a visual reference point as a reminder. When you are faced with these risky behaviors, be sure to give more energy to when they are following the rules and less to when they are breaking them. What I mean is (for example) when our kids get an A on a test we spend some time (maybe 5 seconds) praising them for their accomplishment, but when they do something wrong we go into lecture mode because we want to MAKE SURE they get the logic behind the rule. Kiddos with ADHD are so in the moment that they don't even think about consequences most of the time. Your kids know the rules, you just need to remind them that you don't only see the things wrong they do, but you see the great efforts they make also.

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