D.A. investigator asking granddaughter questions

Joyce - posted on 02/14/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )




D.A. told 15 year old granddaughter she had to tell the truth. Granddaughter was scared. She asked when she had sex. Does granddaughter have the right to refuse to answer that question? No parent was present at the time.


♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/15/2013




If your granddaughter feels that she's being questioned without authorization, then get her an attorney.

But if the questions are involved with an investigation for something like, say, sexual abuse by a teacher, and she refuses to answer them, then the investigation could be compromised.

I would say that she should be able to have legal representation with her, and you should at the very least request that she have an advocate present during interrogation.

Kristi - posted on 02/15/2013




I'm not an attorney. So I would advise you to google the laws in your state or call an attorney who will give you a free consultation before you act on the advice of any of us on here, unless she is an attorney.

To my understanding, a parent is supposed to be present if the child is being investigated for criminal activity. I think if she asks for a parent to be present they would allow for that unless it was a custody case.

Obviously, I don't know why the DA is asking your granddaughter when she had sex. Your granddaughter can refuse to answer questions. It would be wise for her to tell the whole truth if she decides to answer her questions and not make s**t up or tell bits and pieces.

If she was sexually assaulted by anyone, a neighbor, a family member, a boyfriend or a stranger, it is completely normal and understandable for her to be afraid. If she had sex with an older boy and doesn't want one or both of her parents to know, that's understandable, too. If the DA is looking into something, it is probably serious. If your granddaughter was sexually assaulted, especially by a family member, you've got to encourage and support her to get help and prosecute that person. Of course I'm making my own assumptions here. I'm just saying, if something did happen, don't sweep it under the rug. It will never go away that easily. Good luck with whatever it is.


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Christine - posted on 02/25/2013




She is underage and shouldn't be left alone with the D.A. A social worker or advocate should have been there for the granddaughter's protection. Find out information about the case. Educate yourself in what is going on and then decide if an attorney is needed. Ask your granddaughter to be open and honest because the truth will come out.

Joyce - posted on 02/15/2013




Thank you Kristi & Shawnn for the advice you gave. I live in a small town. Everyone knows everyone for the most part. That was the main reason that I thought her sex life should be kept personal. She had not done anything nor had anyone done anything to her. Just rumors that had to be investigated.

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