Dating

Michelle - posted on 10/04/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )

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When is the right time for my 17 yr old soon to be 18 to have a boyfriend/to start dating. So she's got a bf now . One at her school she's known since elementry. But I'm not sure I want this for her. She is a good student , good head on her shoulders and I want it to continue. She had her first heart break if u will last yr. With out warning , it came about her n this boy were at different. Schools n dating , cheating, skyping, texting. Didn't work out. She was devastated. I found out all is well now. But so now these last 2 weeks she's opened up and told me about this boy. And I'm glad she told me but Idk what to think. I don't want her heart broken or to invest every minute she's not where family or school in her room skipping him and getting close . Ughhh I want her to wait. There's plenty of time for all this right? Or am I being too old fashioned? Should I give her some room and let her experience some normal teenage social behavior? Ugh please any ideas from anyone .

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/06/2016

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She is at a perfectly normal age to start dating and having exclusive boyfriends. Even 40 years ago, kids dated and had boyfriends/girlfriends, usually around 16 or so, so you are being more than old fashioned, you are being restrictive, which is why she probably didn't tell you in the first place. People have been having relationships and continuing to move forward, and just like everything else, we need to learn how.

I had steady boyfriends pretty much for all of hs 30 years ago, graduated with a good GPA, and moved on in life. It has been done, more often than not, I would think...if your daughter is a smart girl, she will be able to balance fine.

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Michelle - posted on 10/06/2016

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Thank you so much for your reply. It seems that it would be a healthy part of life and growing up and evolving to go through these natural progressions. I am so glad I have a place where I can get insight from other mothers. I've met the young fellow and both of them seems to have a great balance and sense of themselves and direction of where they want to be and go in this life in acedimics as well. They seem to compliment each other. Again I thank you for opening my mind and eyes to a different point of view. 😚😚

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