Daughters masturbating together

Kate - posted on 02/09/2016 ( 21 moms have responded )

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My daughters are 16 and 12 - when the oldest was around 11-12, I noticed she was getting very sexual so I figured I would educate her on masturbation and sex so she wouldn't get into trouble. The younger one hasn't been so precocious (and also life got in the way a bit), so I've been lagging behind with her. Problem is, I think her sister is not only teaching her, but they are, well, enjoying themselves together a bit. They are definitely masturbating together and at least once I think I heard them watching porn together (the porn part concerns me the most as so much out there promotes negative body images for women - I've talked to my older girl about this but not my youngest). THe older one has a vibrator that she may be sharing with her sister (honestly the least of my concerns).

I know that it's normal for siblings to experiment sometimes, and I would never want either of them to feel ashamed or guilty about exploring their sexualities, but I'm wondering where I should draw the line.
I know that the eldest has expressed interest in, and has had some experiences with girls, so I wouldn't want her to "advance" her younger sister along any further than she feels comfortable with.
Thoughts?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/05/2016

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First, it is extremely inappropriate that you taught your (then) 12 YO to masturbate. FFS! Have the body talk, but good grief. (not to mention, I have boys, and their father NEVER "taught" them to masturbate...like any normal human being they figured it out on their own...just like I did on my own)

If your daughter is overly sexualized, its starting with you./

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My daughter age 7-9 an 11 all masterbate together nude I hear an see them .... I don't mind as long as it only me an my husband.... The 11 year old does orgasm loudly an she does get wet. The others I gave use lub if they insert thing inside like fingers or stuff. Unclebob03 @ outlook.com to chat

Joanne - posted on 05/28/2016

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If your 16 year old was a boy would you feel the same way about this? This post is disturbing and the fact that YOU are comfortable is most disturbing. Get some help.

Alfred - posted on 06/29/2016

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i think you should worry about them sharing the vibrator as this is a matter of hygiene. i have alot of advice i can give you if you want as i had my daughter doing the same sort of thing. my email is sgt4696@gmail.com if youd like to chat about it we can email each other and i will let you know how i dealt with my daughter

Donna - posted on 01/15/2018

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I would agree with Mary except for the porn part. I think you should absolutely discourage them watching it at all. I think it would be healthiest for them to explore their curiosities with their own bodies, not adults they see having sex online. You could put blocking software on their computers and phones to discourage them from watching it if they don't stop on their own. But I would give them the opportunity to stop watching it first before going that far.

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My daughter do it together their 9-11 I have heard them .also the 9 year old masterbates in the family room under a blanket and on long trips under a blanket. I have seen her 11 year old sister help her an I feel its OK as long as the 9 year old is open to it chat unclebob03@outlook.com

Anna - posted on 07/23/2017

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be a sensable mother not just a caring women! once they going to far there nothing holding them back.

Alfred - posted on 07/05/2016

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why should this worry you Kate. Two girls of the same family exploring each other is good i think and very healthy. They are still you and there is plenty of time for them to enjoy such things. We were not so lucky in our youth as it was forbidden anything like that during our time. So i recommend you let them enjoy it. May i ask does it in any way make you feel just a little bit jealous that they are doing this under your roof?

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uuuummmmm....no 16 and 12..shes exploiting her. WAY different age ranges. Iwould bring the hammer DOWN. Butt kicking time NO DOUBT..education for the 12 year old, butt kicking for the 16 year old. She wouldn't see the outside of her room or a book accept for school or meals for a month.

Helena - posted on 02/26/2016

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You need to discuss the legal aspect of sexual activities with your 16-yo. The last thing you want is for her to get in legal trouble. Make sure that whoever she is "experimenting" with is within 12 months of her own age. And when she turns 18 -- no more underage partners.

She needs to leave her sister alone to explore her own sexuality. Her sister is also 4 years younger and she (the 16-yo) can get in legal trouble for what she is doing.

Wasi - posted on 02/10/2016

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well,i think u have to stop them by doing together masturbation and its age difference, elder daughter perfom some differnt body growing happening and small one is different, by doing this they will be weak by sexualites and they will start liking girls instead of boys,so they have to do this alone if its really necessary,,,and why they hv acces to porn,,,?

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