Disrespectful daughter

Vanitha - posted on 05/04/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My 13 year daughter started to point out how I look recently. I have been dealing with hair loss for a long time and going through some treatments and having a hard time dealing with it. I am being called short ugly and hairless by my daughter. How do I deal with it? She says some horrible things in front of my husband that is really hurting. My husband asks her to stop saying it but it is not working. She gets her way out no matter what. My own sister encourages her negative behaviour. It is getting worse everyday. She compares me and my sister and brings me down. I was not the same person I used to be. Please help me deal with this issue.

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Samantha - posted on 05/09/2014

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I have a 10 year old daughter that is hitting that stage.. She is becoming disrespectful. Thanks for sharing. I know I am not alone. Just remember God made us all special.

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Kailey Marie - posted on 05/11/2014

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No matter how you look on the outside you are 1000 times more beautiful on the inside. If your daughter doesn't 100 % respect you than show or do something to encourage respect. If your sister is encouraging her behaviour you should limit contact until things are on the right track. You need to let her no that this is not easy for you, that it is taking a toll on you and is hurting very badly. If she keeps the attitude give her more discipline never punishment. If it still doesn't work I would contact a social worker trained for disrespectful teens. Also not only do you need to stand your ground, your husband should too and any other family members. I hope you feel better and get through this.
- remember you are very beautiful, strong and intelligent and if people can't see that then they have no right to be near you or have your attention -

Patricia - posted on 05/07/2014

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Parenting is difficult - I would tell her that you would not point out anything negative to her that could be hurtful and you don't appreciate her doing it to you / it's a sort of bullying in a way towards you. But just move forward - don't let her get to you - they test our boundaries constantly each day, especially girls and Moms - don't take the bait.
I would have your husband take her for a walk or a short drive and talk to her about respecting you and not hurting your feelings - it might be more powerful to her coming from him.

Kory - posted on 05/05/2014

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Hi there! I can relate with you. I have a a 12 year old daughter. Shes all about her looks and drama and fitting in at school. I tried talking to her dad about her attitude towards me but he seems to take her side! I feel like it is a no winning battle. The dad is doing more harm by protecting her but he too selfish to think he may be doing wrong. I am currently trying to figure out how to make my daughter and I have a better relationship but I feel like all hope is lost. My daughter only listens to me when she wants and if I tell her to do something she defies me. I can feel your pain. I hope we can chat and find a solution together. We deserve to be treated respectfully by our children. Talk to u soon!

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