dissrespectful 15 yr old, HELP!

Kali - posted on 08/29/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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my daughter has been behaving the same but much worse . It has been a constant challenge with disrespect , I have taken things away and then given them back after a a few days or a week. she only sees her father once every four months or so he is a hands off parent I have been raising her alone for seven years and no support. This time I took her things away and she could not have her best friend over , she told me to F off and called me a bitch , slammed doors etc. I feel like I have no control , i told her to go to her room or stay at her fathers ! She called him and he came to pick her up and she told me to F off in front of him ! I have been sending her to a christian school for ten years and work so hard to give her and her brother everything I can . I am dumbfounded and worried. Her liittle brother is so upset to.

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Lynn - posted on 09/10/2013

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It is true, teens go through a rebellious stage as they are tempted by the freedom that life offers. We always want our kids to respond when we ask them a question, respect and obey rules, not talk back, etc. Well, let's face the fact that those days are gone. When we ask a question don't always expect a response, rules...what's that, and they have a voice and we will hear it loudly, etc
Is it rude? Yes.
Is it intolerable? Yes.
Can we get through it? Yes.
Can you regain control? Of your behavior, yes.
Maybe you should approach communication with your daughter, as you would with a relative or friend. Don't be quick to get offended at her words said out of frustration. Remain calm. Hopefully, she can have more time with her father which may help her reconnect with you. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

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Amanda - posted on 09/06/2013

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hello, I am also the mother of a disrespectful 15 year old...and disrespectful isn't even the word! I am a single mom also... last night, a school night, she was going to the park up the street to meet a friend. I said, be back at 7 you have schoolwork.. 7 o clock comes and goes....then I get a txt saying she's in downtown and she'll be home by 8. Well I got really pissed and texted her back that she cannot make up her own rules! Well 8 o clock goes by, I am getting worried....I call and call, text and text, and still nothing. I call the cops and give a police report. Then at 11.30 at night, she waltzes in, Where have you been??? She said, oh I lost track of time. Well, I said you are grounded this weekend. Then Today, Friday, she wants to go hang out with this boy...I said no way, you are grounded and she threw a temper tantrum that lasted hours. Calling me every name in the book..unfortunately my grandmother kinda raised her since she was six years old, and it's a loooong story but my grandmother would buy her things and then my daughter got used to crying and throwing a fit when she wanted something, and would always get it. Now, because of the lack of discipline and structure, she wont be able to emotionally 'grow up'. If kids are taught that they can call you names or cry and get rewarded for it, they can't grow emotionally, especially when they get to be a teen and need to start making grown-up choices. So now I'm struggling with a 15 year old that will throw everything in the book out there to get what she wants. And what's worse is that she doesn't think of anyone else's feelings, and she's VERY disrespectful to my grandmother, unless it's about Bridget, Bridget doesn't want to hear it. It sounds like maybe your daughter is just going through a rebellious stage, and wants to be cool and have you checked out who she might be hanging out with also? maybe is her Father too passive and gives her what she wants?

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