Does anyone have trouble with their kids struggling with school work everyday ?? My son is 12.

Kim - posted on 06/14/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My son is 12 and just barely passed 6th grade. I am so thankful that school is out because school work is such a stressful task for me. He asks for help with EVERY bit of his homework. He really struggles everyday with work at school and home. It seems to take him forever to grasp a concept especially in math. I get so frustrated because he has such a hard time. He has no developmental delays but gets so aggravated when he doesn't understand something the first time he is told how to do it, that he just wants to give up...anybody understand or have any advice?? Am I the only one??

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Cheryl - posted on 06/18/2009

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Hi,

by your message it seems he has a slight learning disability which I mean is that it may take him longer to understand a concept. He just needs someone to take some extra time with him as each person has a shorter or longer learning curve.

I would suggest which is what I am doing for my 14 year old girl is she has maths tutoring which is computer base and also a bit of one on one. If you can spare the outlay i suggest you try and get hold of a Maths computer software for his age group upwards to do at home. That way he can take his time and if the answer if wrong he can try until he gets it right.

I hope this helps...Cheryl from Melbourne Australia...

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Priscilla - posted on 02/28/2013

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Hi, Kim :) I'm feeling you! My son is an 11 yr old 5th grader and I fear he may not pass this year because his math skills are so poor. He won't even TRY to do anything if I'm not there holding his hand! I ask him to TRY to do a problem on his own and he, "I can't do this! This is too hard! I hate math! ect..." I literally end up doing his work for him and I hate it because I know he's not learning much but he REFUSES to even TRY. I WANT to see him scribble numbers on a spare sheet of paper. I don't care if it's right or wrong, I just want to see he's TRYING. I know my son is smart, but he has mentally sent himself up for failure without having TRIED. I am so sick of fighting over homework with him (we spend more time fighting over doing the homework than it takes to DO the homework)! I don't have any tips, I'm sorry, but I at least feel a little better knowing that my son and I aren't alone. If I learn of any good advice I will be sure to let you know. Wish you and your son the best until then. Oh, I am AGAINST drugging my son. I'm sure there are other healthy ways out there to help a child learn than the quick-fix ADD/ADHD meds. I don't know what they are yet, lol, but I'm going hunting

Cheryl - posted on 06/18/2009

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Quoting Kim:

Does anyone have trouble with their kids struggling with school work everyday ?? My son is 12.

My son is 12 and just barely passed 6th grade. I am so thankful that school is out because school work is such a stressful task for me. He asks for help with EVERY bit of his homework. He really struggles everyday with work at school and home. It seems to take him forever to grasp a concept especially in math. I get so frustrated because he has such a hard time. He has no developmental delays but gets so aggravated when he doesn't understand something the first time he is told how to do it, that he just wants to give up...anybody understand or have any advice?? Am I the only one??


 

Ellen - posted on 06/17/2009

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hi kim. i have a 12-year old and he is exactly the same. most afternoons getting him to sit down to do his homework ends with a lot of slammed doors and once even a screaming match. the thing is, we never had this problem until a few months ago. we still have 2 weeks left of school, and i'm just praying it goes fast. hang in there, you are not alone.

Caroline - posted on 06/16/2009

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You need to speak to the school - have a frank discussion explaining that your child is finding the work difficult and the work needs to suit his level. The school are not doing their job if the work is not at 'apple on the tree' level - he has to stretch a little to reach it but it is neither on the floor (too easy and the apples just rot) nor out of his reach. Explain that you are supporting him at home and engage with them, remember to be pleasant and respectful to the teachers (its not the easiest job) but your child needs to be learning at school in a constructive way - if he often feels a failure this will affect him deeply. Good luck. x

Diane - posted on 06/16/2009

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i have found that it is not always the childs fault for struggling in school or home work. sometimes the teachers either don't do there job, or pick the top ten and leave the rest, or pick on the kids. i have run into good and bad teachers. you just have to observe the teacher for awhile and see if that could be the reason your son struggles. some teachers just don't know how to teach. doesn't mean they are bad teachers, just not the ocupation they should of chose. my middle child is slower at learning, and i have butted heads all the way thru 6th grade with the teachers. they think she should be faster when the truth is ALL children have their own rate at which they process info. the teachers want all children to go at the same rate or they get labeled ADD or some other disorder that gets them out of their class room or on some drug that sudates them. to many wonderfully gifted children getting a bum rap.

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