Drugs and friends

Ruth - posted on 06/22/2017 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My son is 14, he has admitted that he is smoking pot and one of his friends he has been hanging out with is not someone I feel he should be around. He doesn't understand why I feel this way and have tried to explain to him the reasons. My son gets angry, and we can never have a normal conversation without him flipping out. I have noticed his lack in school work, his attitude towards others, and his behavior are changing in a way that I just feel is sending him spiraling in a place I do not want to see. Any advice would be great!!

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Jennifer - posted on 07/12/2017

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I am going thru this very same thing and same age! its a hard age and we are good parents. we talk to him well we try and we hope he will understand that his actions will get him consequences! they have to be made accountable!! its so hard I have cried a lot and he just wants friends not us, its hard for the whole family!!

jennifer

Laura L - posted on 06/23/2017

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First and foremost you are his mom and understandably concerned for his health, school work, and attitude. He is 14, and with peer pressure in schools with "friends" who are not the best influence, he feels he can push the envelope on this topic. His outbursts and anger are going to be a normal comeback from a child who knows he has concerned parents and feels he is being drilled. Sadly there are parents out there who go along with these issues and let their children make their own decisions concerning pot and possibly harder drugs later on. They prefer not to be confrontational and let things just happen. I have worked in a specialized schools for children with behavioral issues who were left without guidance, and therefore ended up on the streets, selling, taking and manufacturing drugs. It is your right and responsibility as is mom to do what is best for the both of you. Can you go to any counseling meetings with like minded moms concerned for their children? Venting is helpful and you can learn some tips on the what to do and the what not to do's in talking with him.
Obtain as much research as you can and be honest with him about the consequences of illegal drug use. May I offer this suggestion? Teen Challenge is a great place for information, help and support with drug use. They have programs for adults and young people struggling with addictions all over the country. I have worked with them and have seen amazing things happen.
Take it a day at a time mom, I know this is difficult, I understand and will be praying for you and your son. Blessings.

1-855-END-ADDICTION and you can email them info@teenchallengeusa.com

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