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Rhonda - posted on 12/01/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




When my son first started going through "puberity" we sat down and talked bout it and come to the conclusion that we were going to make it through that stage and notice when we didn't need to be in each others space.

This went well for a while...

Now when he ask me a question and I tell him no its like he is 4 years old all over again! Constantly asking the same question and it gets on my last nerve till I am ready to snap.

Do not misunderstand me..I keep all lines of communication open with both my kids BUT I also keep a firm sturdy hand ; I am parent first and friend later.

For the life of me I just don't know what is he is going through right now and any insight would be great. Thanks to all in advance.


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Toni - posted on 12/02/2009




I have to laugh, I am so sorry, I just read your question and even ran it by my 19 yr old son. I went thru the same thing and survived. My 19 yr old son says your son is totally preoccupied with girls and he can't think straight, he thinks he is hotstuff and that he is running the show. He said that is the way he felt at 15-16 yrs old. The way I handled it was basically told him to be quite and go to his room or I was going to fix him a bottle and put a diaper on him. I know this sounds really funny, but sometimes you just have to roll with it and don't take it so seriously. If he gets totally out of hand, take away his privileges until he acts his age. And remember to talk to him when both of you are calm and explain to him you did not put up with temper tantrums when he was 4 and you are not going to do it now. Good luck and god bless.

Susan - posted on 12/01/2009




You don't say how old your son us but I have two sons (12 and 15) The oldest has seem to calm down and knows that when he asks us to do something and we tell him no and follow it with a reason why, he knows it is no and that we aren't just telling him no to be mean. This way he feels like he is being treated like an adult and accepts the decision. Unfortunately my 12 year old does not look at that way. He looks at no as meaning that he should ask me 12 more times and a reason as a cause for debate. I am hoping that it is that age and he will grow out of it like his brother did. We stand firm on our ground and when I get to the point when my nerve is about to snap I tell him if he asks me again than he is going to lose a privilege. That will usually stop the argument. I thought the 2's where supposed to be terrible. 12's are no fun either. Good Luck!

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