has anyone had a child in residential care?

Becky - posted on 03/02/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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my 13 year old daughter was recently placed in residential care by the court. I am hoping that she will get the help she needs to deal with her anger in a positive way,but I am hearing a lot of bad things about residential care centers.



I would really appreciate any help or advice.

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Sally - posted on 03/07/2010

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My daughter was in residential for a year (July 2008-July 2009). She was 12. It was a fantastic thing for her and for the rest of the family. For the first three months she couldn't leave campus, but then we gradually built up the time she spent at home. By Jan 09 she was coming home Friday night and returning Sunday night and we visited at least once during the week and took her to dinner. She learned so much and made very good friends. She has difficulties with emotional/sensory regulation plus cognitive challenges. She really needed something 24/7 and a kind of neutral monitor of her behavior - the triggers that come with family and attachment issues and the demands of siblings and work made it impossible for us to be as effective as we needed to be. We found it very hard to do, but I would do it again in an instant if I thought she still needed it. She definitely learned skills that have made a difference in her life and ours. I think it is better to get those skills early. As others have said, though, you really need to be sure it is a good facility and shows respect for the kids and their families.

Jridge3 - posted on 11/10/2014

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You should really be very careful in selecting a program. Most are owned by large HEDGE FUNDS with no real concern for helping your child. You can check out this site www.safeteenschools.org to find out about those that have already been found to be abusive, torturing, sexual abuse, have been or are being sued, or those who have had deaths at their facilities because of their treatment programs! You will be basically signing away your parental rights for the duration of their treatment....

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Carol - posted on 09/20/2012

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I have a 14 yr old son adopted from Russia(Belarus) at 5 yrs of age. He was diagnosed with FASD and (PTSD) one year ago. He developed Psycotic symptoms when he began having flashbacks about his childhood in Russia. He was unable to attend regular school.

Curently he is in Devereux RTC in Arizona. He was sent by the school district.

I am very upset because they are treating him as a kid with behavioral problems. He is a teen with FASD and Mental Health Problems. The bevioral approach does not help it aggrivates his condition.

The therapist refuses to give him therapy any more than once a week even though he is requesting it.

He is getting worse due to the constant triggers from this kids with behavioral problems.



Does any one in the group have experience with Devereux Arizona? Are there any facilities in the country that care for kids with Mental illness and FASD ?

I would appreciate any information that you might have in this matter.

Thanks,

Carol D.

Becky - posted on 05/06/2010

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I live in Missouri and the court ordered my daughter to go to residential but they would not do it until all ogther options had been tried.

Sandra - posted on 03/05/2010

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Make sure that they are doing there job. There should be testing done, they should be doing a Psych Evaluation, as well as others. They should be doing group therapy daily, and Pych therapy as often as possible. Ask a lot of questions, and check in at least once a day.

Catherine - posted on 03/05/2010

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I currently have two teenagers in residential facilties. My son is 15 and my daughter is 13. They are in separate facilites. I agree visit as often as possible but don't let the push you around, especially if you have other children. The child in the facility is not the only child suffering form this experience.

Nancy - posted on 03/05/2010

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what kind of residential treatment are you talking of? For drugs/alcohol or discipline issues?

Yneah - posted on 03/04/2010

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Hello
my name is Yneah Riffle and I haved had a son that went to residential twice. It is not the easiest decision to have to make for any parent. He is 11 yrs old now and has autism. He is MR and does have behavioral problems that can get very aggressive. I had to make this decision not only to keep myself sane ( he has a 9 yr old brother with the exact same thing) but, it was to also benefit him as well.

Tammi - posted on 03/03/2010

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My boyfriend has a son in residential care since he was 12 , he's now 18 . He has other problems to include anger issues . He is doing alot better since he was put there by the courts . I agree that you should visit every chance you get and call as often as you can . It really helps his son to know that just because he is there , he does still have family that cares and wants him to come home.

Kari - posted on 03/03/2010

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you can check out the record of the place she is in. keep in touch daily(or a couple times a week) with the place so they know she has family who loves her. be as involved with her as much they will let you. be supportive and positive. teenagers are hard. know in your heart that you are doing what is best for her, or what you and she need to do for her to come home happier. and dont give up on her. good luck

Joan - posted on 03/03/2010

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hi

my nephew was put into a boys home when he was 5 for suicide. he did not stay there any longer than a week. i suggest you visit every time you have a chance.he was also placed in juvie when he was 16 he didn't like it of course but it was a very structured place.feel free to ask questions about the care she will get.she must have a lawyer?ask him to tell you exactly what kind of care she is supposed to get.every center is different it often depends on the staff.

good luck

Becky - posted on 03/03/2010

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Thanks for your comments and I will keep you all updated. I have heard very good things about the place my daughter is going to.

Reb - posted on 03/02/2010

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What state do you live in? A friend of mine is having a horrible time with her 16 yo but the court won't get him residential treatment.

Rona - posted on 03/02/2010

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Mine is in Juvie and she also has anger management problems likes to have tantrums when she does not get her way. Been violent at times and verbally abusive she is ordered to go for residential care - near Austin. I have high hopes , learned and heard good and positive feedback about the place is she gets accepted and if a bed is available. Hope all goes well with you keep me posted

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