Having feelings of hatred towards teenage daughter

Joanne - posted on 12/02/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 15 and her attitude is horrible..She hates all of us, is rude, she doesn't participate in any family things. She sits in her room all the time. We do so much for her and she doesn't appreciate a thing. I am not sure where everything went so wrong.

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Cari - posted on 12/27/2012

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Yes.. ladies. be positive and do not show them it bothers you!!!! My daughter is top honors and she will do all right in life.. all.. very ambitious always home.. A+++ family friends..... I trust her 100%%%%.. but an attitude that is gold. ha ha ha ha! with me only!!! spoiled? maybe.. but she does not appreciate.. . it is the age.. the tough age.. be positive ladies. and smile at life.. and love them more.. just ..... do not snap at them.. control.. JOIN GROUPS AT CHURCH positive things.. life has ups and downs. I am done with the crying.. I am very sensitive since she ( my daughter) is my life. ........ now it is my year..! buy new perfumes for you.. clothes.. be positive.. and they will turn around. Pray. pray and pray... life is full of surprises......

Sally Anne - posted on 12/27/2012

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That sounds like my 18 year old daughter she ids the same. We do everything for her and dosent appreciate anything. All that you can do is just be there for her. Try not to get angry because it wont get you anywhere. if you keep at her she just won t listen, see if she will do her own thing,Just go about your own day and your life and hopefully she will turn around. Goodluck

Cari - posted on 12/25/2012

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Joanne. the more I read here.. the more I see my teen daughter. I think it is a teen issue!!! they are aliens.. My daughter is 16 and does the same she is an HONOR STUDENT. impossible . but only with me!!!! no one else. she is a model student.. ONLY WITH me. she does not answer back when I talk her to her.. "so honey what did you have for lunch?".. her response. " food"...

I had it I am tired. I am walking to my church every sunday getting involved in very positive things and just not letting her hurt me.. I think two things.. they will grow out of it. or.. THEY WILL NOT AND learn the hard way in life.... I cry and hurt. I raised her with love, and care.. a realtor full time single mother but I am there for her. I do not have a man in my life or want to until she goes off to college and I can do my own life. Bringing someone now in a teens life is worst. ( my opinion)... She will get the scholarships and go on then I will have time for ME..!!!.

BUT she is rude and cruel to me. for no reason. I fee the same Joanne where did I go wrong .. no where!! that is my answer. .. She is just cruel and mean because it is the AGE.. I am ignoring her.. watch Joanne the more you ignore in a very natural way . they will change. Any other changes that you have had at home??? write down things and see if you have had changes in your life for your teen to act up.. it is a combination of things.. but most the AGE. .. they are aliens.. it is tough tough age.!

Jennifer - posted on 12/25/2012

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I feel the same way, not so much hatred but a great deal of disappointment and my situation has taken a great mental and physical toll on me. I feel as if I have aged 20 yrs in the last 6 months. I have 4 teenage daughters. Have been divorced for 2 years but the behaviors they are showing now, rude, hateful, disrespect, unappreciative and just complete bitchiness just started 6 months ago. They do not behave this way at school or in front of family members though. It is so bad that I am embarrassed to take them anywhere with me, not because of how they treat others but because of the way people look at us when they are treating me this way. They seem to have a smile on their face only when I break down and cry. It seems as if they are not even human anymore. I have tried many different things with them and it shows after that I have only wasted my time. I do not want to give up on them but I feel so stressed. The dr tells me stress is going to kill me quicker than anything else.

What have you tried to do with your daughter?
I know I don't have answers but I understand. As a mom that has done absolutely everything for their children and would die for them I am so heartbroken that I don't want to be around them anymore.

Pamela - posted on 12/02/2012

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You must get to reason for her acting this way. Ask to write her true feeling's down on paper if she does not want to talk to you about her problems.It could be a Number of problems.It may be something going on at school,talk to someone at her school.See how she is acting there,if she is having trouble there she is bringing her problems home,because she does not know how to handle her problems.Could it be she is jealous of a sister or brother?If none of this helps talk to a preacher an ask his advise.Tell her you love her and want to help also tell her she has to do her part to solve what is wrong. Good luck ,you may try and get advise from older teens at her school or Church and ask them what they thank is the problem.

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