He Doesn't get it!

Celina - posted on 10/21/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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How is it that my 15 year old son doesn't seem to realize that he is burning bridges every time he speaks to someone disrespectfully. How is it that he still thinks he will be successful in school when he can't even put in a whole day before being sent to the office for something he has done. He is clueless!! I don't have the words anymore for him. Nothing I say gets through to him. He is on the road to destruction and I can't even stop it. I am so tired of the phone calls from school, and so tired of the stress he causes. How do you all cope with these types of things?? Anyone???

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Momma - posted on 10/23/2013

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I just found a great resource that has been eye opening for me as a parent. It is a book written by Kevin Leman called "Have a New Teenager by Friday: From Mouthy and Moody to Respectful and Responsible in 5 days".

What I have learned is that my parenting style or lack there of is what has created the teenager I live with. AND more importantly that it can be changed... probably not in as few as five days, but it can change.

The issues I have with my 14 year old daughter started back when she was around 3 years old and discovered the power of tantrums... I should have done something back then, but I didn't know what to do, or how I was actually contributing to her behavior.

I have already tried a few of the tips from the book and my child is starting to act a bit more human-like in the past two days. The shocked look on her face when I didn't react in the my same old ways, is proof enough for me that I might actually be on to something.

I wish you luck in finding a solution that works for you and your son.

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Celina - posted on 10/23/2013

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I usually ground him, or take something away that he likes. I have tried everything you have mentioned. I am also trying to get him in for counselling in case there is some underlying problem. Thank you for responding!

Amy Nicole - posted on 10/22/2013

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There may be something wrong where he feels upset and the only way he can get attention is through acting up.
Another thing that could be wrong is that he feels like he has too act bad for a girl or for his friends.
I would talk to him and let him know YOU are the Parent and He is the Child.
He also needs too know that there are other people a whole lot bigger and badder than he is.
At, this age he is probably trying too show off for girls and for his friends.
What do you do to punish him when he get's in trouble at school or home?

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