HELP!!! 18 years old and STILL wets the bed every night!!

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Hi all,

I have decided to post this here, as I feel like I'm running out of options. My daughter is 18 years old now, but she still wets her bed almost every single night! The doctor has prescribed her medication, but she refuses to take it since she said it makes her feel tired during the day and she usually ended up in a wet bed anyways. The most frustrating part isn't washing wet sheets almost everyday, but the fact that she takes zero responsibility for her bedwetting and doesn't even seem to care about fixing her issue. I can tell she is embarrassed about still being a bedwetter, but she does not do anything to help her problem. I'm the one washing her sheets everyday and making her bed. She refuses to wear a bedwetting alarm. She does not take her medication because she complains it makes her tired during the day and she usually wets the bed anyways. She doesn't even take her sheets off the bed, she leaves her wet sheets on the bed for hours until I get home from work and by then her room stinks! I don't know what to do. She will be in college soon, and I CAN NOT have her still wetting her bed by then! I can only imagine the embarrassment she will feel if she bedwets in college and her roommates find out. Even now, she does not have her friends over because of her plastic bed sheet and the odor in her room. It will be even worse if she has to share a room with a few girls...

Can anyone give me advice? How do I help someone who doesn't want to help themselves? Her bed wetting putting a serious strain on me. I'm not sure how much longer I can wash her dirty laundry. Any advice on how i can get her to stop her bed wetting, or AT LEAST get her to take responsibility?


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DC - posted on 08/23/2017




Well my comments go in two directions here. First, as far as the stress on you, I would suggest that there is no possible reason your dd shouldn’t be cleaning up after herself. She is 18! Why are you doing the dirty work for her? Second, as for remedies, there are a few ideas for you to consider:

Does bedwetting run in the family? Apparently this is a thing.

There are several medical issues that can cause it: urinary tract infection, diabetes, significant constipation, a congenital abnormality of the urinary tract, a disturbance in the central nervous system. All of those should be ruled out at this point since it has been an issue for so long.

Bladder exercises. She can do these exercises to gain better control. Research this – not enough room to list what to do here.

Have she been to a chiropractor? If certain bones int the spinal column are out of position or shifted, the spinal cord and the pairs of nerves can be affected and irritated enough to disturb the essential communications to the brain.

She must take responsibility for herself – she is college age. Turn over her life to her, it will be a step in the right direction and a blessing to her, though she won’t see it as such. Good luck!

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