HELP. BEEN SO STREESED OUT THAT MY ANXIETY ARE GETTING BAD. ANY ADVICE I WOULD GALDLY APPRECIATE IT

JESSICA - posted on 09/11/2013 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Ive been separated from my sons father since 2003! A year ago i send my youngest to florida to live with his dad only well as a mom you want a better environment for your kids & Also cus i was planning on moving out there as well in 6 months. So i came to live in florida mind you i left my job and my apartment back in New york.. Ive been here almost 9 months and still cant find any work at all, As the struggles come in, anxiety are kicking even more because no job you cant pay bills..So with all this stress i decided i wanted to move back to New york where there is more opportunity, I mean is not the best place But something gotta give! so therefore i told my son about my plans to move back to new york and he was all for it.So then i called his dad to meet up and explain what was going on. He got upset Typical father that loves his only son! so my son was confused! but i guess he gave it more thought and decided he wants to stay with his dad! My son tells me He loves the school & Doing really well in school and has tons of friends and he is able to go outside with no problem vs in new york is a little different. I sometime feel like i fail him and im not a good mother only because i made the decision to leave back to New york and leaving my son behind. I want the best for my son and i want him to succed in life..Dont get me wrong his father is a great role model and is molding him to be the best he can! But my heart is so heavy right now Because he decided to stay with his dad and not come with me. I just dont want my son to ever think i'm a bad mother! This kid is my life my world my everything! I really gave it my all and more just florida i guess is not for everyone! just want to know would that make me a bad mother?

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Dana - posted on 09/19/2013

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Jessica I think when he's done well for himself, you will know you did that and in his heart so will he. You have nothing to beat yourself up for. You need to take care of yourself and stop worrying.

Dana - posted on 09/19/2013

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Bless you I think you showed a lot of strength, putting your son's needs first. It must have been so hard for you, but I'm sure he will love and respect you more for wanting the best for him. Chin up you sound like a great mum x

Kimberly - posted on 09/11/2013

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Do not feel bad. You have to be able to take care of yourself. It is great that your son's dad is a great role model. Feel at ease that you know he is in good hands and understand that boys need a positive male role model to bond with. You will see your son. Everything is going to work itself out-don't worry. You have to make yourself happy before you can be of any happiness to someone else. I do understand as my kids are my life. The best thing is that your son's dad is good and with that , you can rest at nite!

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Yossy - posted on 09/09/2016

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Honey I'm so sorry that you feel that way you honestly not a bad mother but it's maybe a good time to cut the umbilical cord. I'm pretty sure that he loves you the same way. We as a parents make a lot of misteke n you child will be making 2 , it's time to respect his decisions just like he has to respect yours.. when his ready he will come back to you remember they really don't leave.

JESSICA - posted on 09/19/2013

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Thank You Dana...I think whats bothering me...is that he'll be starting baseball soon and i really dont want to miss any of his games,,,,i dont want him to feel sad, when he sees his friends mom cheering his friends & im not there..that breaks my heart in so many pieces :(

JESSICA - posted on 09/19/2013

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@Dana..Thank you for your kind words...This has been a rollercoaster for me...Im still in florida and so scare to leave my son behind..Not caring that this is not healthy for me, My anxiety are kicking everyday now...Not scared leaving my son with his dad Because he is a great father but dont want in the near future my son feels a certain way for me leaving him, Its just so much to deal with :(

Kimberly - posted on 09/18/2013

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Never knew the heartaches that would come along with being a mom. Thank you for your kind words-I can tell you are by reading your post. May you be blessed.
Kimberly

JESSICA - posted on 09/11/2013

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Thank you Kimberly for your kind words! My boys are my world! To make everyone happy I agreed for my youngest to stay with his dad and send my oldest with my mom to Ny because he was having a hard time adjusting in Florida! The things we do for our kids and All the crying and sacrifice! Thank you once again! Xo

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