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HELP!! First time 14 year old daughter is a monster!!

Dawna - posted on 06/30/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




She is sooo disrespectful to me and her dad. She does not care what people think of her. She is loud and rude and puts me and her dad down constantly. I have tried EVERYTHING in the book to punish her. Grounding and taking things away does not bother her at all. She continues to be mean and rude. I am just to the point I can't take it no more. I am scared to talk to her for fear of a smart ellick remark or rude put down to myself will be said. Please, help me...anybody have any suggestions?


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Julie - posted on 07/03/2012




i ahve yet to meet a child boy or girl who doesnt turn into a monster during puberty. do you remember being that age and what your parents did to you. one thing to remember though in any punishment is not to embaress them or it will make it worse. talk to your daughter tell her that her behaviour is not acceptable. let her know you are there for her and she can come to you with any problems but you will not teollerate her behaviour nay more. when my son was 14 i grounded him for a month. when i said a month i menat a month. it was the 13 of the month and he never saw the outside of my house unless it was school time untill the 13th of the following month. no games no tv in his room nothing it was apunishment. he soon learnt to behave. another time he and his sister was getting on my nerves so i sent them to their rooms. i then heard the TV and the games consoles so i went into the basement and switched te electric off to that part of the house. they were sent for a punishment not chill out time. they never did it again. they learnt the hard way and laugh now but at the time they were furious.

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Counselling comes to mind. What was her trigger to become like this? Don't show her fear and when she starts disrespecting you and mouthing off, tell her 'I do not deserve to be talked to like this. When you can speak to me respectfully then we can talk some more'. Then walk away. She will be SHOCKED the first few times but stick to your guns! Don't give in to her and talk to her until she can talk to you with a calm tone and respectful. Try it! Good luck

Veronica - posted on 07/02/2012




Great way is the corner. When I was a 15 and I disrespected my elders, my mom put me right in the corner for a hour.i learned really fast

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