Help! My son is very smart but very lazy!

Natalija - posted on 10/24/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I read some of these comments, and most of them sound like we are all having the same issue with our teens & lazziness. My Son has been a straight A student until last year when he strated 7th grade. I got a letter from the school saying that he should be placed in advanced/merit classes. He is doing well in all classes except in Reading & English which he has the same teacher in both. His grades have dropped from A's to D's only in these 2 classes. His teachers say he iz lazy, and has horrible work ethics, that is why he is doing poorly. I see that he dislikes the teacher, and the classes, b/c he is notdoing well? Should i remove him from advanced reading & english? I know if he was not so lazy, he can be on the A honor roll. He doesn't finish his work, he lies to us about things saying he didn't do it because it was too hard. His teachers say the opposite. Please help?!

Sincerely,

Natalie( a mom of a 13 year old boy who is extremely smart but lazy)

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Natalija - posted on 03/09/2013

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Thank you Debra.
Well, I have wonderful news! I had a parent teacher confrence with his english/reading teacer and the principal. They were both very concerned. They called him down from class and we all sat together and talked. My son admited he was being lazy, he apooligized to the principal, and to the teacher and promised he would get back on track. Within a few weeks, he raised his grades to A's and B's. His principal went out if his way to help.. I am so thankful to him for being more like a parent figure and a true friend to my son. My son has kept his grades up ever since. I am so glad we had that meeting. My son is still being a typical teen in a lot if ways, but is doing great in school again. For anyone that is having similar issues, ask the teachers and the principal or guidance counselor for help. Reach out to them. It won't hurt. It can obly benefit your child. And make your life less stressful. ..

L R - posted on 10/24/2012

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Natalija, It sounds like your son needs you to intervene. There are many things going on... first of all, maybe he is bored as well as going through changes. Have you checked online to see if the teachers put their homework online? Also, most schools offer a study time before or after school that they have children come to do their homework and get extra help. Does your son have a cell? Attend after school sports? If he does, maybe losing some privileges would bring him to his senses. Also, if he has a tv or computer in his room.... take it out! It's time that you get very involved so he doesn't regret it later on.

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Kelly - posted on 12/11/2013

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YEAH!
read your outcome after i commented. But here's what i had :)
He's bored...(?) already knows the 'easy' stuff he's having to listen to in class(?) AND he's 13! Change teacher. My son doesnt do well with male teachers. Is it possible for him to take 1-2 local college classes? Maybe make him feel great. Give him a better/different type challenge. My sons school counts the credits when he does start college.I think he'll come out of it. Like you said 'he's smart'!

Debra - posted on 03/08/2013

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Help--my 12 year old son is failing 7th grade, not because he is not smart, but because he is lazy. He doesn't see the need for school. I don't blame the school, but I question, how I could meet with them in the fall when we had this trouble, and discuss not letting it get to mid term again without me knowing. Today I got his mid term report card and he is failing three out of five subjects. The first I am hearing. I have tried using the on-line system for checking grades; however, most teachers do not put up their grades or even their assignments. Makes the on-line system useless. I have taken away all privileges of my sons, he has no tv, computer, games, cell phone, etc... I have been checking his home work every night since the beginning of January. This makes no sense to me that I had no clue of how bad he was doing. His mid term report, also did not include any specific notes to help explain what he hasn't been doing. My husband blames it all on him and now he is even afraid of his dad. HELP! What can I do, I don't want to see my child fail 7th grade. How do I motivate him, convince him to care about school?

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