Hi, Im new on this list, and need help! I cannot afford a cell phone for my teenager, age 17, and she is also not very responsbile and sneaks around a lot. She recently has a cell phone that she says somoene at work gave her, and she will not give it up.. any ideas?


Kat - posted on 06/19/2012




Hmmm, it doesn't sound like this is a work phone from the way you worded it. And no one goes around giving away cell phones for no reason...I don't want to alarm you, but if she is sneaking around and doing things that make you feel you cannot trust her, I would seriously have red flags here. There was a case here locally in which a teacher gave his student a cell phone to use for sexting, which led to the teacher being arrested for investigation of sexual contact with a minor. If it were me, I would try to get a hold of that phone when she is in the shower or sleeping or something, and look at the text messages as well as get the phone number. My hackles are up.....this situation sounds fishy and I would be playing detective big time.


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/18/2012




Well, first, there's absolutely no need for a full time cell contract anytime, anywhere, when you can go buy a prepaid phone, and (if she's got a job) she can put minutes on it. We have 4 phones, and our monthly "bill" is under $150/month. No contract. No "monthly fee".

But, regardless...If work gave her the phone, then presumably it is not to be used for anything other than work contacts. So, if you're concerned, you can call her boss, and ask. Tell him that you've noticed her with a phone, and you wanted to confirm that it is strictly for business use. If they're clueless, then there's your answer...

Kristi - posted on 06/18/2012




What kind of sneaking around? Like sneaking out at night? Do you think she's sneaking drugs or alcohol? Take her bedroom door. Privacy is a privledge, not a right. Call her boss, ask him/her about the cell phone. She has to put it down at some point, when she does, go pick it up. If she puts it a purse or backpack, pick that up. Those are just a couple of things I might try. Good luck!

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