Hi my daughter left at christmas to live with her father. We had been married for 16 years and he left me as he said he was gay! The girls and I were devasted as we had no idea at all. . This was 6 years ago now and I have married a wonderful man who has been brilliant with the girls. My ex was very happy about the marriage aan knew the girls would be happy and safe. This went well till this time last year when the ex split with his boyfriend because he has a drinking problem and he could not deal with it anymore.. Sadly hie was so lonely he stopped parenting and started being a buddy//bestfriend to my youngestt which has all gone rom bad to worse. She started self harming and then tryed to take her life twice. Loads of intervention has taken place to help her but she was just horrible at home mainly yo me .Rude,swearing,badmannered and just a nightmare to live with. . It was just to much and just before xmas I said all this had to stop and that we loved her and wanted her to be part of the family or perhaps she should go and live with her dad. Needless to sayshe went straight away guinea pigs and all she packed everything herself and was gone.


Jacqueline - posted on 01/25/2013




Oh dear! What a scene this must have been!!

As for running to dad, well......she probably felt bad for him and thought she could keep him company and recapture some lost father daughter time....subconsciously of course.

In any case, they deserve this time together, and he deserves the opportunity to try to get her through a hard emotional time. Let them support each other for awhile while you take some time to regroup and enjoy the peace and quiet.

If she has another emotional crisis while with dad, he may or may not be able to deal with it and she may come back with certain conditions of course, although you never said how old she is. I'm guessing 15-17?

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