How do I discipline my 13 year old daughter when she acts like a 2 year old?

Kathie - posted on 08/21/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




One minute my 13 year old daughter acts like she's 17 and then next minute she whines and stomps her feet likes she's 2! When she acts like a 2 year old and throws a fit I feel like I should discipline her like she is 2...but on the other hand, that's not really teaching her to act her age. Any suggestions?!!


Francine956 - posted on 08/21/2012




Typical teenage hormones! I have two daughter 19/17 although they didn't really throw fits, they had other expressions of frustration. First, what are the tantrums over? Are they really worth discipline? Or are they just because she isn't getting her way? Have you tried discussing her actions with her? I found that when I laid out all the expectations and consequences I put the ball in her court, if she wanted to act like a baby then she would be treated like one, by not getting what she is having a tantrum over. When she could act appropriately and speak to me and explain her thoughts about why she wanted to do something then more often than not I would let her do it. I think the key is finding that middle ground where we as parents still have the control but let them feel like they are making some decisions. Another thing to keep in mind is even though they would explain their desires and I allowed them to do what they asked, I would still check up on them without them knowing. Of course when we had our discussion, I made it very clear that I would check up on them from time to time, so they didn't think I just trusted them- trust is earned. On occasion I would let them know I checked up on them, for example if they went to the movies with a group, I show up to see if they were with who they said they were with. Parenting isn't easy, but creating open communication and helping your teen to develop their sense of responsibility, it can make life a little easier. I hope this little insight from my experience as a parent helps in some way. :)


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/22/2012




Hey, if she's acting like a 2 year old, then you are justified to treat her as such. And then, when she complains that you treat her like a baby, you can explain that being treated in an age appropriate manner will begin when she ACTS HER AGE!

2 YO's don't have cell phones, gaming systems, computers, or many opportunities with friends. If she wants to act that way, then thats what she gets.

And, yes, have done this with my kids (not frequently, because they realize that they look ridiculous)

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