How do I get my 13 year to stop drinking?

Michelle - posted on 11/18/2008 ( 9 moms have responded )

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She is depressed and failing in school, sexually active....I worry about her.

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Myken - posted on 11/23/2008

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RUN, don't walk and get help ASAP. This isn't normal behavior for a 13 year old. If you can't afford help or get it with your insurance, contact a state social worker (although this might need to be a last resort as some state programs won't give the help you need).

Phyllis - posted on 11/23/2008

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HI Michelle....Unfortunately I speak from experience.....You do need to get help and fast...she needs to accept the help that is the first step. There are programs in Utah that Tracy talked about, but they are very expensive. With the economy the way it is....it was out of reach for me.
Locking up the alcohol will not help either.....if they want it bad enough they will find a way to get it. Call your insurance and see if they will pay for any programs in your area. It would be best if possible to get her away from her friends for a while...a residential program is best. I am in New Hampshire and there is only ONE program for adolescents....thankfully it is state run and we got our son in. He has been there for 30 days so far and doing well. The good thing about that program is that it works on family issues as well....gets to the root of why they are doing what they are doing...
I suggest you make phone calls fast and find your resources......holding her hand and taking her to school is not going to help because she is only going to walk out the back door.

Racquel - posted on 11/18/2008

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I just dealt with this same situation with my 13 year old son. He experimented with pot and sex. We took away his cell phone, internet and land line at home. The girl he was involved with was notified and banished from seeing our son. I then took him down to the local RCMP detachment to speak with school liason officer about the drugs and had his photo posted so other officers in the area would recognize him if he was out. He was also grounded for one month (including Halloween) and was taken to and from school. I was going to take him to get checked for STD's as well but my husband said that was too harsh. You have to step in and give them consequences. Our son was mad at us for awhile but isn't anymore. He hasn't spoken with the two "friends" as we have blocked their phone numbers and email addresses. Parents just have to get involved.

"Twinkie" - posted on 11/18/2008

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I agree with everyone else. Call your insurance company and find out what behavioral help you can receive for her. a Partial Program might be a great start to her recovery.



I'm also not sure where you live, but there are programs such as www.learningtolead.org that have workshops just for teen girls to help their confidence/self esteem etc...



Get her help now... later it just becomes more difficult.

Vanessa - posted on 11/18/2008

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It could PEER pressure with her but I agree with the other ladies, you need to seek professional help. Good Luck to you and your especially your Daughter

Tracy - posted on 11/18/2008

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I agree with Lori Get her some help NOW...When my daughter was 14 we sent her to a school in Utah, called Aspen Ranch (she was drinking, doing drugs, sexually active & probably other scary stuff too) it was very expensive but we got a loan to help. She was there for 9 months & got treatment, counseling, and the best part was that she got to work with horses. they use equine assisted therapy there...She is now 21 & doing well. She is the first one to say that it saved her life. I guarantee that this is a problem that affects your entire family & the sooner you get all of you some help the better result you will have. Do not wait...I know from experience that things can get much worse very quickly. I don't want to scare you ( or maybe I do) I have been exactly where you are, & cannot stress enough to get professional help NOW

Renee - posted on 11/18/2008

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She's 13? Get all the alcohol out of your house, drive her to and from school and make her stay home and get into counseling ASAP.



Sleep in her bedroom if she's sneaking out.



This is a problem that needs some tough love.

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You're in over your head. Get professional help. Do it now! Our school district has a special district counselor that was a previous drug rehab counselor. If yours does not, google resources in your area. Good luck!

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