How do I get my 16yr old daughter off her computer

Patti - posted on 09/02/2009 ( 81 moms have responded )

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All she wants to do morning, noon and night is play an online game called Warcraft(wow). she is putting way to much value into her online friends and gaming...Her game deffin. comes before family in her eyes. I miss her

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Theresa - posted on 09/03/2009

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Talk with your child about his/her excessive computer usage. Find out if there are any specific reasons that he/she spends so much time on the computer – sometimes the computer functions as an escape from reality. If your child is facing problems that are causing a desire to “escape”, try and address those.

Move the computer to an open area if it’s not already in one – sometimes taking it out of the child’s bedroom is sufficient to reduce their computer usage, and it makes it easier to monitor their usage.

Set a password for the computer so that only you can log on to it. Your child will have to ask to be logged on to the computer in order to use it.

Find out how bad your child's addiction is, and what exactly your child is addicted to – does your child spend most of his/her computer time playing games, chatting online, or just browsing the Web?

Set a time limit on the amount of time your child can spend on the computer each day.

First, tell your child his time limit and see if he’s able to stick to the limit himself.

If he can’t control his time on the computer on his own (which, if his addiction is serious, will likely be the case), start using a timer. Once the timer goes off, your child has to get off the computer.

Set a time limit on the amount of time for yourself in order to be a good role model. If your kids see you following your own rules, then they will be more likely to follow.

Be aware of what your child is doing on the computer. Check the Internet browswer's history to see what websites she's visiting, or install a keylogger to monitor the programs that she uses.

Buy or download a program that restricts computer use. Parents often find it difficult to enforce time limits because their kids will put up a fight. If necessary, buy software that will enforce time limits or block use, such as www.TimesUpKidz.com , www.EzInternetTimer.net or Popnoggin. With some of these programs, parents must take explicit action to add time rather than remove or restrict it.

Replace the time that your child would normally spend on the computer with other activities – play board games with her, take her to the library, get her together with friends to play sports, etc. Addictions are hard to break, and it’s even harder when your child has nothing to do.

Patti,



This is a large problem with most of us parents.



Assign your child extra chores or take away other privileges if she continues to overuse the computer.

Warn your child that if he cannot control his time on the computer, you will have to take it away completely.

Follow through on your warning, and take the computer away. If your child has her own computer, remove the power cord, and put it somewhere where your child will not be able to get at it without your knowing.

If you have more than one computer, you may have to monitor them to make sure that your child is not secretly using them. Look at your Internet’s browsing history to see if there are any websites on there that you’ve never visited. You can also install a keylogger, which will record any activity on the computer.

Meka - posted on 07/13/2011

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Okay, I'm a tech savy momma and there are settings on the computer for time limitation. You can set her down and talk about the times she would like jjto spend on it. My daughters had this
probably and they argued over the one
computer. So they both got 2 hrs a day
and 5 hrs on the weekend. Than I set the times (parent controls) on the computer for each child. What is neat the internet will not work until its in those times. They didnt like it at first but got use to it.

Renee - posted on 09/12/2009

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I have a 12 yr. old daughter and a 14 yr. old son. They both like their computers way too much. It started affecting my sons shcool work so I put time limits on their computers during the week. My husband and I sit down with them to watch a favorite tv show (we have about 3 that we watch together each week), or we all go sit in the hot tub to relax. My daughter has always enjoyed reading so she will read and my son has started reading more to fill the time. He also enjoys making videos so he will work on those some. They were not happy at first about the timers but they are fine with it now. Sometimes they will ask for a little more time on a given evening and if their attitudes have been good, I let them have it. But, they know it is just for that time. It's amazing how much better their attitudes are and they are enjoying more time as a family. Setting timers really does work. They may need some help in filling the time when they can't be on the computer but I'm sure you can help with ideas. It's worth a shot.

Brenna - posted on 07/13/2011

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i had the same problem, she wouldnt get of the computer when i asked her... she would yell at me so i just took the computer away... shes 12 yrs old.. i grounded her for one week already.. then she was gonna go back on then she was just on it for not even a day and now i unplugged the computer.. yesterday she said to me.. mommy thank you for doing this and taking the computer away from me.. i was letting it come between me and my family... it was the best thing you ever did... you can ground me for the rest of the summer and i wont even ask you to go on or whatever.... online friends dont mean anything to me.. but my family means the world to me.... i thank God that you did this cause he showed me that i was doing wrong!!! and your so right about that bible verse to mommy!! Eph 6:1-3
"children obey your parents in the Lord for this is right, honor your father and mother witch is the first commandment with a promise, that it may go will with you, that you may enjoy long life on the earth"

"mommy i was not for a long time listening to you or obeying you all this time and im so sorry!!! "she said tonight im gonna rub ur feet and back" i wanna make it up to you, thank you again for taking the computer away... i love you mommy she said!!!

so if ur wondering what to do i would unplug the computer and do some family things to replace the computer... let her see what she could miss when shes always on the computer with her game friends.. have more family time... i have a laptop that i use but use it b4 she gets up...
(but thats just me and what i would do.. took me, my Husband and my ex to deal with this.. i Thank God that i have a wonderful Husband and that my ex is now trying to help out after 12 yrs being outta my 2 kids lives...
but really gotta say thank you to my Husband tho and to the Lord my God for helpin me with all this with our daughter!!!!

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Austin - posted on 05/28/2015

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Honestly I wouldn't do anything about it I mean if you take it away she'll just get pissy and hate you... I also play that game it's really fun I'm a hardcore player (I actually do shit) And basically it can create a teamwork effort since you play with 19 other people and I've also improved typing skills and grammar so basically it isn't that bad and honestly no one gives a shit about family time it's just how it is now a days yeah she should come out every once in a while but I never leave my room very much like her maybe?

Vinay - posted on 11/11/2013

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I am a Father of 13 Year old daughter, who is hooked to her Mac, largely watching movies and tv series. She is so hooked that she has shun the outside world completely.

I just HAVE to take her mac away. But I don't wanna force this on her and make her rebel. Is there anyway that a problem can be pretended in the laptop so that it can be taken away on that pretext?

Mary - posted on 11/03/2013

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If she's on wireless you can get help from cable co to block her computer from going on the Internet. If she on thru connection in her room open jack in wall an pull wires it can always be reconnected.

Alice - posted on 11/03/2013

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Maybe she's addicted because it's actually fun? This is the 21st century and kids grow up with technology and computers. Perhaps you should just accept that she enjoys what she's doing. She doesn't want to escape or does she have any problems, she just enjoys playing the game. Games got me into computers, I'm now studying computer science.

David - posted on 02/03/2013

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To children game developers and kid website owners.

First I know and totally agree that it is the parents, it is I, who is responsible for my child computer time and habit. I just feel that I am fighting an uphill battle, you know, between working, looking for work, provide for our family, pay taxes and bills. I have been trying my best to limit and teach my 9 years old daughter to use computer and game in a safe, responsible and efficient manner. Often time she either too caught up or chooses not to remember. And somehow someway playing way too many hours on game. I try to do the best I can on my end and I know there much be more things that I as parents can do. I am willing to listen. I just wonder, there much be more can be done at your end also to help us as parents. Perhaps a built-in simple, easy software tools to limit the time on your game, to allow parent some control of playing time.
I guess I am asking you to go above and beyond. Helping parents help their kids playing on your game/web site. This would ultimately be a win win situation for both of us.

A trying father to help his 9 years old daughter.
David L.
San Jose California.

Ayls - posted on 12/21/2012

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Common Sense Media offers some tips on how you can manage your teens addiction to her computer:
1. Establish rules and good habits early.
2. Stress the importance of doing homework first before computer.
3. Limit multitasking like watching TV while chatting and so on.
4. Know whether your teen has develop addiction to computers
5. If you think they are dependent to computers have a heart-to-heart talk
6. Call professional help if needed.

http://www.commonsensemedia.org/advice-f...

Scophie - posted on 10/23/2012

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So do I. I ask the experts on yahoo and they suggest me to use parental control. It can keep track of what is happening on the computer and block games and unwanted sites.

http://goo.gl/l9ng4

Dawn - posted on 03/12/2012

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WOW can be an addiction add powerful as a drug. For some kids, it's a way to escape sts our boredom. Engage you're kids in actives they are into that you can enjoy together, expressing how you miss time with her. Set a rule for yourself that this is not a time to address grades or less than acceptable behavior our your pet peeve about her. I did this with my daughter, to, explaining to her that before either of us realized, she'd be of starting her own life. These are the last few memories we make, and we can choose for them to be awful our really fantastic. Then I asked her if she wanted to smile in 20 years when she looked back on these days. The arguing stopped, and we laugh like together like friends most of the time. If she choose to discuss the issues she's dealing with, I accept that she us honoring me enough to trust me with her vulnerable emotions and make a point to not let her regret opening up by punishing her for what she says. Good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 10/03/2011

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I play WoW myself and understand the draw...its a wonderful game and can be a time suck. but its important to set time limits and require family participation in order to play. you will lose your influence over this once she is 18 - the time to help her learn better time management skills and create the habit of family time is now.

Betty - posted on 07/06/2011

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I had that problem with my 18 year old, she wanted to go on all these different social network websites to guys she will never met since some live so far away. I have heard Warcraft is a very addicting game. I have had to limit my daughters time on the computer. I got her to get out more to hang with her friends. that is the only solution I have

Stephanie - posted on 07/05/2011

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If it is WOW you will have to physically take her computer away from her. It is one of the most addicting online games there is to play, and I know many people who have dropped out of school, or lost jobs, due to this game. If you have to for a time being cut off all internet connection. I may sound like a loser/nerd, but hear me when I say, this game can and might take over her life.
I had a girlfriend who had a bay got married, and she threw that all away for some guy she had never met yet talked to day and night on WOW. She left her son to her ex husband and moved away with him.....

Julie - posted on 06/29/2011

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Especially during the summer - have a plan... breakfast with mom followed by dishes, etc., and a few simple chores. Take her shopping for groceries with you and do something social every day - the Library or strolling through the mall. Yes, the world is different now, but she needs her exercise and other activities. Allow her only 4 hours per day (now that it's summer) on electronic appliances and she'll have to decide if it is with games or friends.

Jody - posted on 05/19/2011

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cut her off. You pay the bills. Let her know how you feel and that she is investing wayyyy too much time on the pc and that it's not healthy. Make her earn her time.She is clearly addicted at this point. She needs to know that family should always be priority. Get her engaged in more family activities. This means that you will need to be more attentive as well. This will be a habit needed to be broken by everyone in the family. Everyone became too busy for each other at some point. Get out of the house more. and then make her earn her computer time. If she doesn't co operate then take the computer privilidges away.

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 04/10/2011

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This is a very heated issue. Try putting a strong limit on how much time she is allowed on the computer each day. 5-6 hours max. 4 if it is really an issue. However, I used to do this when I was young and it made me hate my parents because it didn't help or solve anything. I didn't want to spend time with them. There wasnt anything more fun to me at that point in time. Its totally a teenage thing. If you can, the best way is to try to find something you both enjoy. Even if it requires you buying a WII, or another computer and join a game with her.. common interest is key. For my dad and me we got into dirtbikes. It was the only thing that kept us talking. Good luck. Its not easy

Dawn - posted on 04/10/2011

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put parent restrictions on her computer as for time when her time is up the computer will shut off..

Teresa - posted on 09/26/2009

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I agree with Kristy. I'm going through the same thing and I'm suggesting my 15 year old bake with me or for us; go shopping with me when I need to go; and sometimes I've told her to have her room cleaned (not just tidied) before a certain time or I take away something she is looking forward to. These things all seem to work most of the time. I also have set a curfew time in the evening when the computer must be off. My daughter has a laptop so it gets placed somewhere other than her room after we hit the curfew. Alot of whining goes on but oh well. She is doing it much more willingly lately. Oh, and by the way, her room is staying much cleaner these days. lol

Good luck!!

Marlene - posted on 09/19/2009

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Welcome to the world of teens. I have raised 4 teens and they all seems to have different priorities. She will grow out of it eventually. Every day, month and year the things that are important to them changes. Maybe schedule a fun mon and daughter day where you have lunch and go do something for just the two of you.

Clarise - posted on 09/19/2009

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I think the best way to get her off of the computer is to turn it off. As parents, we have to set rules for our children to follow. Hopefully the computer is not in her room so you can monitor what she is doing. Tell her that she only has 1 hour a day online, unless she is doing homework, and stick to your rule.

Chris - posted on 09/17/2009

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My almost 13 year old son is totaly into Ruenscape almost like an addiction. his subscription is almost up so it will not be a problem much longer. I do know you can buy software that only allows a specified time amount of play.

Lisa - posted on 09/16/2009

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Quoting Nina:

My problem is, I don't understand why parents give all those expensive items to children. My 16 year old son, do not have those luxuries. He do not have a cell phone, I refuse to pay for him to text or call people in class or at any other time. Use the house phone if you want to call someone. He does not have a computer, use the parental control computer in the computer room and do not ask me to let you into something you shouldn't be in. He has a fourwheeler his dad got him (we are divorced) and he rides it for a few hours a day, but all in all he spends most of his time outside doing things or working in the yards with his dad (when at his home) or helping me when he is here. I did not allow my son to have all those fancy gagets and I do not have any trouble with my son. He respects me, he does as I ask him and does not fuss back with me. If I ask to pick up his room, he does it and do not think twice about it. Take the computers/electrics away and stop buying them for the children. They are CHILDREN not adults. They don't need all those things!


 

Lisa - posted on 09/16/2009

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you better nip it in the butt now before its to late my son was just like that i set a password that only i know for him to get on the computer each of my kids know the rule 1 hour no more i set a time so i can keep tract of each of thier time then its home work if they need the computer or it i compromise on that but i also supervise to make sure that what thier doing i put my computer on sleep mold at 10 pm no more computer till the next day.i hope this helps and i know it sounds mean but my son was very addicted he even snuck on at night so thats why i made a password that i can unlock my computer.good luck

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BTW before anyone replies back bashing me for not allowing the electronics comment. We do have a Wii that we spend family nights with playing games together. I made the choice to give my son things like guitars etc to give him something to do.

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My problem is, I don't understand why parents give all those expensive items to children. My 16 year old son, do not have those luxuries. He do not have a cell phone, I refuse to pay for him to text or call people in class or at any other time. Use the house phone if you want to call someone. He does not have a computer, use the parental control computer in the computer room and do not ask me to let you into something you shouldn't be in. He has a fourwheeler his dad got him (we are divorced) and he rides it for a few hours a day, but all in all he spends most of his time outside doing things or working in the yards with his dad (when at his home) or helping me when he is here. I did not allow my son to have all those fancy gagets and I do not have any trouble with my son. He respects me, he does as I ask him and does not fuss back with me. If I ask to pick up his room, he does it and do not think twice about it. Take the computers/electrics away and stop buying them for the children. They are CHILDREN not adults. They don't need all those things!

Wendy - posted on 09/15/2009

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I had this problem with my kids on their computer, x-box, cell phones, and so forth. I have placed strict rules on time limits. If they do not follow, I have implemented the 3-strikes rule. If after 3 strikes, they loose what got them in trouble in the first place. So far, my kids have lost their cell phones. One kid is on strike 2 for this x-box. No exceptions. You are the parent and have the right to pull "fun items"...

Rosana - posted on 09/12/2009

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I feel pretty bad about this problem too. I am brazilian and my daughter is 14 years old. We live in an apt. in São Paulo and her father gave her a laptop when she was 13. We are divorced. She is so addicted to playing games and talking with her friends on the msn that I feel totally stressed. I have fought with her many times, talked, and so on. Even when we go to the beach, she takes her computer with her and doesn´t go to swim anymore as she used too. It´s very very difficult and unhealthy too. But when I try to talk her out of it, she fights, cries, and so on. It´s like I don´t have a daughter anymore. Lately I have been asking her to go more often to spend her weekends with her father as it´s terrible to see her all day on the computer and I can stay alone for a while without actually seeing her all day in the internet. I know I should try to solve this problem, but I also don´t know how. Sometimes she feels I am so sad about it that she comes, talks to me for two minutes, then goes back to the computer again. Or she helps with her laptop on all the time, doing something and then going back immediately to the computer. It´s awful!!! In order to keep her busy I enrolled her to learn english twice a week (tuesdays and thursdays) and spanish (mondays and wednesdays). And also dance classes 3 hours a week. But instead of keeping away from the computer, when she gets home, she doesn´t do her homework anymore and her grades are not very good anymore. By the way, I already tried unpluging the computer and being more strict imposing time limits. I am not afraid of her, I just get sick and tired of her bothering me all day. It´s an exhausting job and I have tried all the possible tips people gave me. Now, I am only waiting for her to grow up so I can send her to study abroad for 6 months whe she is 16. I don´t know, maybe new friends or interesting trips might take her out of this addiction. And lots of praying.

Amy - posted on 09/12/2009

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Its easy to say, limit thier time, unplug the computer, your the parent. However, I have a 13 year old daughter who spends far too much time on facebook. She has been talking to strangers and talking down about herself. When I found this I sat with her and explained how much trouble she could get into and that I wasn't about to let anyone bully her, even herself. She lost all priviledges for some time and it seemed to help. Now she is back on and spending too much time at it again. I haven't seen that she has been trashing herself and check to see who she is talking too. I am becoming a stronger person everyday, however, I have been in a bad marraige for 18 years. It left me with little strength to be the parent I should have been. Through this time my daughter got the best of me. She new I wouldn't be up to a fight and took advantage of it. Now that I have ended the marraige and am becoming a stronger person, we are clashing even more. She is not use to me being strong enough to say no and is fighting that much harder. I have come a long way but still lack the stamina to stand up to her at times. Is it possible that I will eventually tip the scale and gain control? Will she realise that I do deserve respect after years of not getting it from husband or children? I hope so.

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The fix is simple. Turn it off, unplug it and put it away. Why does she have a computer in her own room? We have 2 computers in our home, one in a computer room with parental controls and my laptop that I control and monitor. I agree with a few others here, parents are afraid to tell their children NO! We are not to be our children's friends, we are to be their parent. They live by our rules in our homes, until they leave our homes and move into their own places. When my Son (16) moves into his own home, then he can make the rules, until then, He lives by my rules and standards. Stop being the friend, put your foot down and unplug the computer.

Karolyn - posted on 09/10/2009

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Unfortunately I had the same response as many of these moms do, however, then I thought about my daughter and here is what happened when we did take computer away and or limit her time. She went to her high school and they have computers in their library and she would just get on them and do her stuff, so now she graduated high school, but won't be 18 for a few more days. So I thought that was a relief, now she couldn't access a computer, but now she goes to our library and gets on the computer there and does whatever she wants, I even cancelled her library card hoping that would stop her, but alas she outsmarted me again and she jsut uses a guest pass. Instead of finding a job she is at the library for 5-6 hours a day playing on the computer. So, now I am at a loss and it isn't as easy as pw protecting or turning off a computer. My 13 yo likes to play on the computer and we limit her time and she is respectful and responsible about her limitations, but she is also involved in quite a few extracurricular activities. I am hopeless with my soon to be 18 yr old, but I do know limitations work with kids who respect and value the family as a whole. Those who don't will find a way around your rules, and believe me they will be creative trying to find a way on the computer. So, although turning off a computer and limiting it in your household seems simple it is the public places that these kids will turn to to do their "gaming" or computer play. Don't be so quick to judge that one answer or the simplest answer will work.

Atiya - posted on 09/10/2009

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I am facing the same issues and i wanted to write the same sentences which Leslie has written .Even I am clueless as to how to make them understand the value of family bonding .Time to time I bann the computer but its not affective .

Diane - posted on 09/08/2009

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Hi Patti,
As a Mom of a 16 year old daughter I totally understand. If my daughter isn't on the computer she's on her phone texting. One thing my husband and I have done is set the computer to lock her out between certain hours. And yes the computer is out in the open in our home. Her cell phone is blocked after midnight. At first she thought is was harsh but, just tonight she commented how much she appreciates the fact that her friends can't text her through the night. My daughter is intelligent and very active in marching band. From time to time we take advantage of this by inviting her friends over. I figure if they are here she has no reason to be on the computer or phone. And it gives us a chance to know her friends. Hope this helps.Hang in there...keep talking to her.

Cherylann - posted on 09/07/2009

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This happened with my daughter too. I had to limit her time on the computer, i would give her set times to go on. I was very concerned about what could happen if she went in the chat rooms, I monitered this heavily. Make sure the computer is in a room in which you can walk by & see what she is doing, do not have it in her bedroom. I know how addicting computers can be, I'm on FB everyday but I have other resposibilities to keep me away from it. Make sure she has other things to do also. My daughter is now 18 & the computer is no longer her life, she has a job, school, car etc. It won't be long & yours will be too. Good Luck

Kaye - posted on 09/06/2009

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Hello :) I can sympathise, as my daughter is now 17, but when she was younger spent far too many hrs on her PC. It was always kept in the living room never in her bedroom. If she refuses to spend less time on it then do as I did and change her password and refuse to let her have it, so you're the only one that can log on to the account. If that fails remove the PC cable and hide it only replacing it when you want her to spend time on her game. She sounds a bit addicted to her game, and if you break this cycle she might remember that life is for living not only for online games!! Teenagers are not easy and I think anyone who has one will never be very far away from one dilema or another ((( hug ))) be strong x

Cheryl - posted on 09/06/2009

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Kristy's advice is really good, setting times, having 1 on1 time etc. but for the times she is not supposed to be on the computer (if she's not listening to you and is still going on the computer) pull the plug litteraly...take the power cord and hid it or take it with you if you go, or anything else to make the computer easily inopperatable. Remember you're not her friend, your her parent.

Meka - posted on 09/06/2009

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I have set up att parent controls on my 15 year old daughter's laptop. It was funny the first time she realized it was on there. I set the time restrictions to limit how many hours she is on it and the times she can me on it. When she first got it she was on it all day and was trying to stay up all hours of the night. Now that I got that on there her internet shuts off and it won't let her do anything on the internet anymore. She knows what her time restriction are and there is no more agruements with her on it.

Karen - posted on 09/06/2009

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My son 17 was spending a lot of time just what I call "computering" and luckily when he moved in with me, he was living with his father, and that was the problem, but I digress and that's another story. He found friends with outside interests and he spends time 4 wheeling or learning to mechanic on his ATV vehicle or go kart , or helping his friends with their cars etc. But as I stated above I did but passwords on the computers and change them periodically. Also take away those privelages when abused.

Karen - posted on 09/06/2009

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This is the best way to handle it. I have had my son though sneak on the computer after everyone went to bed and be on it all night and then be too tired to get up in the morning. This is why you need passwords. However, he figured that one out too. So I change it every now and then.

Lisa - posted on 09/06/2009

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My 16 yr old son was also a WOW fanatic. He suffers from depression and anxiety, also is an only child. He dropped all of his friends when the depression started 3 yrs ago and chatting and playing with others online were his only means of socialization with kids his age. He is being treated for depression/anxiety, but still doesn't go out with friends. I started refusing to pay for any online games. He is only allowed to spend his own money for these games, and in order to earn money he must do jobs for grandma, or other family members (outside of normal chores). I limit the time he is allowed on the computer, and encourage him to earn extra time by getting out of the house, calling a local friend, etc... anything that gets him off the computer for a while. I have taken the power cord, and disconnected and hid the router and/or dsl modem when needed. Last summer I even had to ground him indefinitely from the computer due to a situation, and you wouldn't believe how he looked for things to do - got out of the house, met a new friend down the street, went fishing with me several times. I made the mistake of letting the limits slide over this summer as he had a really rough year and now we are going thru it all over again, breaking the habit. One good thing = he became bored with WOW and quit playing a couple months ago - all on his own...

Anita - posted on 09/05/2009

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Put a password on it so only you can get on it and if she wants to use it she will have to ask first. Thats how I would control my 16 year old daughter if I had one. Good luck and I hope this helps.

JO - posted on 09/05/2009

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I have, in the past, Taken the modem to the supper table w/ us & to bed with me. She will come looking for it! I promise. Tell her you miss her, make a date for coffee. I would be more afraid of the addiction to the game in paticular that she is playing. I have head of grown adults escaping the realities of life & becoming obssessed with ' warcraft'. We have warcraft 'rehabs' out here. Good luck!

DavaLynn - posted on 09/05/2009

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If she will not step away from the computer after you try to set rules, then you could always buy a lock out tag out the the computer plug. You snap it around the plug and put a lock on it. My son tried the same thing which was effecting his grades. I unhooked the internet to his computer, so he had no reason to sit on it. After a week of his being on computer down time, I told him the rules, what would happen if he didn't follow them, then plugged it back in. I have to remind him every now and again about the consequences, but he is quick to act when I do.

Melissa - posted on 09/05/2009

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Well sweetie who's the mom? Children need boundries. My children's game time is limited to two hours everyday. Alot of mommies feel like they don't want to push their children away so therefore...they alow them to do things they don't think they should just to keep down an argument. I have had a talk with my daughter about her attitude. I was direct and straight to the point. I told her I don't always expect for you to be in a good mood but when you give me an attitude... then you are stepping out of your boundry line. Talk to her...Tell her this is my job...This is your job...I will give you respect and love and saftey...In turn this is what I expect from you...And do NOT waiver be consistant. Hope that you have the best of luck!

Vickie - posted on 09/05/2009

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can you block certain, things on the computer , or put certain time limits on it

might work for you thats what i do with my son he wants to stay on the computer to much also

Nicole A. - posted on 09/04/2009

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whew good luck. limit time. change passwords. do a block on sites. i think for parental control you can set a time for sites and then it blocks them out. i'd try to find things for her to do to distract her- movies, that sort of thing. it's difficult because there arent too many teens who want to hang out with their parents..

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Well not trying to be rude but possibly a intervention is due here? Seriously our 15 yr.old son has a friend that has logged countless hrs. on WOW! so much so he never sees him much anymore! and apparently it's not just for teens but i have heard of parents getting involved with it too, having WOW parties etc. if the computer is in her room take it out and closely monitor it REALLY closely! For the sake of the good lord our boys lost interest in video games along time ago and took up longboarding! I really hope you can get her some help before u seriously lose her. all the best! Julia

Diana - posted on 09/04/2009

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That's easy! I only turn the router on when my son is allowed online! No router, no internet!

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I tried the program Timup it was wonderful , no fights for the computer I set an amount of time for the kids to use and once it was used up, it kicked them off. they got to choose when they would use it. I want it back, because I know how you feel. !4 yr old computer seems to be a life line.

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