How do I get my daughters to help more around the house?

Pam - posted on 10/12/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )




How can I balance cooking and cleaning with my two teenager girls while I start back to full time work?


Michelle - posted on 10/13/2012




Put a calendar up or a white board and assign them a task to do each day if they do it reward them at the end of each month with a movie date or something that would appeal to them.


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Ramona - posted on 10/18/2012




I have a chore list for my kids every day that I have to work. Everyone pitches in so that we can all have more free time.

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Make it a chore for them to take turns to do either make them do it for a allowance or take away privileges like phones (if they have one) the ability to go out with friends tv for a month etc things like that :)

Peggy - posted on 10/15/2012




It's nice to have a regular family meeting time, to discuss plans, happenings, and jobs and get everyone on the same page. If your family understands the benefit of your going back to work, everyone should agree to contribute some jobs to keep things running smoothly as part of a team effort.

We've tried the white board, rotating jobs each week, asking them to suggest ways of working and coordinating chores to make things easier, and positive motivation with allowances and car use with good success. If someone does not do their part, then they need to feel that there is a consequence too. It is most important to keep the atmosphere positive and praise them for their help and support.

For cooking, I'd recommend planning 5 easy meals each week to prepare on the weekend, and then work out a schedule and teach them how to make them. Crock pots are great, and casseroles, stews and soups can be made ahead, frozen and reheated.

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