How do I get my ex to stop pushing for 50/50 custody of our children he does not want? He just does not want to pay child support. My children are very comfortable with the visitation schedule set. I do not want to go to a custody trial because then my children will become involved with a court appointed psychologist. This divorce is not their fault and I have protected them from the terrible situations that have occured. I want my children safe, however, I want them to have a relationship with their father.My ex spouse has verbally and physically abused our son and I am terrified that if he does not see past his


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Jodi - posted on 03/23/2014




Unfortunately, you cannot force someone else to do what you want them to do. If he pursues this, you have no choice. The court will take into account what the children have to say (you didn't mention ho old they were) but is it really such a bad thing if they have to talk to a psychologist about it if that is the extent of their involvement?

Kim - posted on 03/23/2014




I don't have an answer. Except seek legal advice. If you can afford it, get an attorney that will work for you and behind the scenes. I know you don't want you kids to go through all of this, but the sooner you get started the sooner you will be done with it. It is only hurting your kids seeing their parents fighting. Never use the words "Ex", use kids father, and don't speak badly of him. Be positive. Because when you do go to court, it might get bad and then your kids won't resent you. I am speaking from experience and other friends. You don't want to get to the day when you say enough is enough. Unfortunately you need to kill him with kindness. Always remember, he is your kids father. They need both of you even if he doesn't want them. I know this probably doesn't help but it sounds like you are a great mom for asking for help and caring for your kids.

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