How do I handle a 17 yr old girl being disrespectful

Amy - posted on 10/21/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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How would you handle a 17 year old when she threatens to run away everytime you put your foot down. She doesn't seem to choose the right friends or boys for that matter and we will not allow her to see them because of their values. She wants to move back in with her dad because he doesn't have rules and she constantly defies me and says so much out of anger. How do I handle this?? I am so lost.

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Darnita - posted on 10/22/2012

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I have gone through 5 teenager each are different at this time they fight for independence and you need to stay strong with your rules and how you and your home shall be, but they will make mistake, but in the end we became friends I let them no were I stood and I respected there choses we didn't agree but had let say if you can't live by my rule the you need to live somewhere else, if they take you up on that,remain open to them. My last child put had the whole house turned upside down. She didn't follow none of house rule she drop out school , leave for weeks and getting high, breaking into homes the more upset I got the more she did, so we did this until legal age to leave I put her out. Now everything I wanted her to Do now she doing and asking me for advice when before I could not get her to say two word to me, but each child gave me my run for my money to become responsible adult they got there but with some hurdle.

Michelle - posted on 10/21/2012

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You need to step back you cannot choose your childs friends and especially not her boyfriend, all you are doing is pushing her away. You need to teach her how to be responsible and support her in her choices even if it is not a choice you would have made she is almost an adult and needs to learn how to handle situations good or bad on her own, and suffer the consequences if she makes the wrong choice. If you do not let her do this she will struggle with life in the real world and perhaps really rebel and cut you out of her life.

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