How do I handle my 13 year old boy who cries all the time?

Kendra - posted on 08/22/2013 ( 9 moms have responded )

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We can just have a discussion and my son will start crying. Tell him to do his chores he will start crying. Tell him to do his homework he will start crying. Tell him to go read and you would think we are punishing him. Anytime we ask a little so sing out of home he cries about it. How do you handle this? Is this normal or do I just have a cry baby on my hands? We keep telling him if he keeps it up he is going to be known as the kid who cris at school and be made fun of. We are trying to toughen him up but it just is not working. Any advice is welcome.

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Stephanie - posted on 08/09/2014

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My 14 year old son cries over EVERYTHING. Hes a big cry baby and I dont know why. Ive tried everything to get him to stop and he just wont. The doctor put him on meds for depression thinking this is the problem and it has done no good. He cries when hes bored, cries when he doesnt get his way, cries when hes disciplined, cries when he doesnt want to be at school, cries if we just talk to him, cries cries cries. Im about to pull my hair out. I love my son but hes going to end up getting beaten up at school and then he will cry about that too!

Lacey - posted on 11/20/2013

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Im in the same boat you are. My 12 year old cries about EVERYTHING. he can be in his room by himself and start crying for no reason at all. My husband and I have tried to toughen him up but nothing works. he is still such a crybaby. sorry. don't get me wrong, I love him more than anything but this is getting old.

Nancy - posted on 08/25/2013

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Is he crying deliberately or does he seem to have no control? I disagree with anyone who suggests punishment or shaming. Children cry when they are hurting and I think it is important to find out what is behind it. Could he be depressed? Is he being bullied? I would speak to a doctor and/or a counselor. I used to cry a lot as a kid and I was often told to stop, but I couldn't.. Believe me, I wanted to be able to stop far more than the adults wanted me to!! Telling him he will be made fun of for it will just make him self conscious and ashamed. Please have him evaluated by a professional!

Kendra - posted on 08/26/2013

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He cries at school when he is frustrated. He is on the football team, in Boy Scouts and participates in youth group at church. He insists that there is nothing wrong. I know hormones are in play. I just know what it is like being teased in school and never came back from it. I just do not want that for him.

Maria - posted on 08/23/2013

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Your son sounds a lot alike me son but my son is 12 years old soon to be 13. I have learned that just like girl get all emotional and going through all that body changes boys do to and this could be a sign of you son asking for attention the wrong way. I will tell you how I coped with all this crying my son had, he still does but not as often as he us too. I would get really mad and annoyed by my sons cry and everything would just get worse, so I don't get mad anymore I just let him cry it all out and when he is done and ready to talk we talked. So just don't give in into your son's crying just tell him go to your room and when you are done crying and acting like a 2 year old you are welcome to come back out and we will try it again.
It will take a lot of time but it will get better for you and your son. Boys don't like to be called little 2-3 years old. That's what my son would tell me all the time stop calling my a 2 year old because I am not. I would say ok then stop acting like one with all the crying and whining and complaining if you stop and act your age which is 12 than I will stop calling you a 2 year old or even childish. They don't like it at all.
Well good luck and I hope my experience helps you with your son.

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Ana - posted on 03/31/2015

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Maria if I called my son (13) a 2 year old he will get even more upset. he is the type that get upset over the wrong comment. we took away his computer and he cried and refuses to speak to us, not even after we gave his computer back. he just doesn't talk, never has. I have to pry out of his mouth to get answers...He wont tell me about his problems at school or anything else...So frustrated and hurt.

Tamara Rae'jean - posted on 11/29/2013

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My 12 year old daughter is the same way she is a big drama queen. When I get frustrated I just say it one last time and then remove myself.

Lynn - posted on 08/26/2013

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Is he emotional away from home, like at school? Is it only during certain parts of the day? Is he involved in any sports or other social activities where he can interact with other peers? If the tears are sincere and not a form of manipulation then his feelings are disturbed for some reason and you should find someone for him to talk to. Possibly, ease up on the toughening him up for right now.

Ella - posted on 08/23/2013

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It's probably just a habit he's formed to get attention. If I were you I would tell him to stop with an assertive tone then if he doesn't stop just ignore the crying and don't pay attention to it because thats the opposite of what he wants, he wants you to care and when you show him you don't he will stop. I would then go out with him to do something he likes just to confirm to him that you do care and have time for him and that he doesn't have to cry for your attention anymore and won't find some ulterior way to get your attention.
I am almost positive this will work because my son had a similar habit where he would throw a tantrum when I asked him to do something. I then tried this and it worked.

If it isn't for attention then I have no clue what it is or how to stop it

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