How do you handle teen boys wanting to experiment with marijuana?

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I recently found out my son tried smoking pot - I do not approve, we've never approved of drug use...does anyone have any ideas on how to effectively discourage this? Thank you.

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Hi, I raised two children through this stage and my suggestion is to be calm, use matter of fact tone of voice, and ask him to explain his feelings that led to this choice. Be sure to listen without interupting or showing negative body language. When he is done, ask him if there is anything else about it he wants to tell you. Then be clear that this choice of his is not acceptable and you hope that he will not continue to make choices that are harmful to his mind, his body, his future and the peace of all those who love him. Tell him lovingly that you want to trust him but if there are any futher drug or alcohol choices you and the people who love him will take question whether you can trust his choices or not and that affect his ability to attend future functions and do what he wants to do. Tell him that he has so many great times ahead of him in the next fews years and you would hate to see him make choices that would make it hard for him to have those great times. Tell him that kids who do these things have their feet in quicksand but often think they are on solid ground. Say- you are not one of those kids.



It is time to open your eyes more on who his friends are, where he is going and his capactity for coverup. It might not seem so, but he needs you to talk less now and follow through with any action you suggest. Say what you mean and mean what you say but remember is is all in tone of voice- whoever yells first- loses. Good luck

Charlene - posted on 06/12/2009

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Give some lattitude. Otherwise it will be worse and harder than marajuana.

Shelly - posted on 06/11/2009

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I agree with Sylvia test test test and never tell him when it's coming that way you can be his out to tell his friends no he can't do that b/c mom randomly drug tests!!! Some times they try it just b/c thier friends are doing it and this way you can stop it before it really gets started...Good luck

Sylvia - posted on 06/08/2009

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I was in the same situation just a few months ago. my situation was a bit different my son was caught at school and suspended, so he was grounded for a month had all of his privledges taken away. I have since done random drug test you can purchase these tests at your local drug store I keep 2 or 3 on hand at all times and my son knows that I will test him at any given point. I love my son and I was scared he will ruin his life.

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Patricia - posted on 11/10/2012

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Thanks for your posting. Just found out today our teenager was experimenting with marijuana. He failed our drug store drug test and his excuse was peer pressure. Gotta know who your children are in contact with daily and keep preaching to them about for every action there is a consequence. We make offer counseling to see if there is something he is just not telling us. Was told the basket ball team introduced it and this is his first year of high school. We are all on a plan that leaves him no lagging time and check in . we all have drug kits so that we can test him at a moments notice

Emily - posted on 07/06/2009

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It sounds easier than said talk to your son and tell him the ugly facts about all drugs like for example there are things like laced weed and you can be taken advantage or hurt. I have had a talk with my dauighters guy friends in front of my girls and it was easier to have them listen to me tell them and they started talking about it and they forgot I was even there and it was great I even told them about things like how smoking weed can be boring after not getting the same high and then you might experiment on other drugs and so on... Not that i agree but do it when their friends are over and start up a conversation and watch their friends will talk and it will be the ise breaker. Oh the boys I talked about are now Playing football for Universities and thank me when they see me cause they remember when we had the talk cause its hard for kids to talk to their parents whish they told me and they told my girls they're lucky that I'm open to discuss topics.

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