How to change a teenager's mind?

Juliana Dutra - posted on 12/12/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




I am going to start a study about what can actually change a teenager's mind.

I came here to find help but seems that everyone has basically the same problem.

What everyone need? To have control of their teens. Punishment doesn't seem to help, not conversation either...

What can be done?

How can whatever is decided to be enforced?

Just in case of some one with an idea, my son is 12, we're from Brazil, my son got in US in April 2012, we were apart for over 4 years and since he moved here he started to have problems, he used to be very good at school, grades and behavior, once he got here things changed. There is tons of reasons for that, climatic environmental change friends and family members left behind, the worst step father in the world and so on...

Well his grades are very bad, he's always being called at the principal's office for being wandering around the school, for talking in class and today for braking a head phone.

He is a good boy and his life is pretty boring already, so there is nothing I can cut form him, he suggested that I should cut his video game for a week or so, but doesn't play, he uses the computer to talk with people in Brazil only, sometimes he plays game or watch videos there, but it wouldn't make a positive difference if I cut that to.

So I thought, maybe a work, an exercise, maybe volunteering, community services, reading about kids in Africa (or even Brazil) that would give everything for an opportunity like he has today.

Well, he's going to therapist tomorrow, I hope to come back with some ideas.

If anybody has any idea, please share! Learning is the best pleasure for me!

Thank you!


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Juliana Dutra - posted on 12/17/2012




You are right! That's what I think too and so does his psychiatrist.
The school is actually being to hard on him, in my opinion.
I just had the idea of doing this study by other's stories.
But thanks for your support! ;)

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/17/2012




It doesn't sound like he needs his mind changed, it sounds like he is needing assistance adjusting to his new and extremely different situation.

He's changed countries, parents and schools all within the last few months. No one can adjust to those things automatically, and the younger you are, the harder it is to adjust sometimes. Consider culture differences, custom differences, and parenting differences!

Counseling is your best bet. He needs someone in his corner to help him handle all of the changes.

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