How to deal with a 20 year old daughter that is difficult

Ronda - posted on 04/04/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )

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This may not be the correct forum, but I am at a loss. I recently had to make the difficult decision to kick my 20 year old daughter out of our house. She has moved in and out of here multiple times and it has never ended well. I have worked so hard to make excuses for her and believing in her enough to give her another chance. She is married and has a 7 month old son. She and her husband are separated and he now has their child. These were her choices and I am heartbroken over it. I know she is back into drugs (a problem since she was 13) and running around with people that are not really friends. She has worked and quit so many times in our small town that there aren't many more places she can go for a job. She dropped out of High School her sophomore year. She has no place to stay and is angry with me for "putting her out of the streets". When she moved in this last time (less than a week ago) I had her son living with me. She hates being a mom and would rather stay out all night. After finding her gone all night after only 2 days home, I reminded her that I have rules in my home and that curfew is 10 during the week. The next day she didn't come home at all. How do I let go? I worry for her and her safety. She is jumping from house to house because she has burned all bridges with friends and family. I am so scared and am a total wreck. She finally came back around yesterday to change clothes and seemed to be waiting for me to welcome her back home. When I didn't she left angry again. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Barbara - posted on 04/04/2015

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First and most importantly, get help for yourself!!! I have suffered through something very similar for 20 years! I kept trying to fix her drug problem and her poor choices for so long! I would give her second, third, fourth chances. (the chances were endless) She would be ok for awhile then revert back to her old behavior. I finally had to walk away, which means that I am unable to see my grandchildren.I have not seen her or my grandchildren for 4 years. She did call once during that time wanting money. I said no.I have moved away and she does not know where I live. What I have learned: you can't fix or change anybody; the best you can do is try to take care of yourself and not let them bring you down. Was this the right decision for me? Yes Just know that you are not alone; a lot of mothers experience this. Most just do not talk about it. This site might be helpful: http://addictsmom.com/

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