I am a single mom and I have a teenage son that has been skipping all his classes and his grades are low.

Maria - posted on 12/12/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My son has been skipping class for 2 months and his grades are low, and is not concentrating in school. I am tired. "What else can I do?" I have provided for his eye glasses, cell phone, he plays guitar, he has clothes to wear to school, he is fed well, goes to sleep early, I don't know what to do.

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Rebecca - posted on 12/16/2012

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Yes with our son we took away things including the skate board he did not change did not want the skate board back. Some kids just donot respond to anything as ours. We went to counseling, wrote things down had him sign it. monitored him at school, talked to teachers and his counselor weekly. My husband even sat in on his classes. We encouraged, stayed positive, gave him what he needed to succeed. His motto is school is not for me it is for you (referring to us , his parents) But weed, hanging out with friends, going to Raves, not working is what he says he likes to do. So we can only honor that and he will have to go away from our house to live the way he wants.

Pamela - posted on 12/16/2012

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Take away one of his favorite things at a time and when he's gone put them in the attic for safe keeping. When he's lost enough he'll straighten up. Then demand good grades.

I got the worst report card from my son 3 "F's" he got a "D" in science and an "A" in PE. I took his skate board, he use to skate everyday. His grades have gone up and I meet with his teacher every 3 weeks but he has to keep his grades up til I meet with his teacher in 2 weeks. then if he gets a good report I will let him skate. I will still have meeting with his teachers every three weeks. Most teacher will have a phone conference with you, with all the teacher present.

Rebecca - posted on 12/16/2012

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Hi Maria this is Rebecca again. Just one other thought, I know kids are exhausting when they get to be teenagers, I think it is the hardest time for parents. But there are other alternatives for school, if your son is bored. Internet most states have now and it is free. But then it is motivating him to do it, if you work and are not there. However with some programs they can do it any time. So he could do it when you are home. Talk to his counselor they should be able to give you alternatives. If we can get our kids turned around it is worth the fight. My son could not be turned no matter what was done for him, so unfortunately as heart breaking as it is, he will be on his own, I hope that will turn him around. The frontal lobe in their brains do not mature until about 21 so reasoning and understanding are sometimes out the window. Some of us find ways to manipulate them into doing what we want, sometimes that works. It is a tough road, keep working on him, stay tough.

Rebecca - posted on 12/16/2012

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Maria do you know what he is doing when he skips school? Is he just staying home? Have you talked to teachers and counselors? Get their opinion. My son was skipping school and smoking pot, we finally sent him to a military school which did not help, he dropped out of school, steals, continues to smoke pot and now we will announce to him when he decides to come home after a few days of having pot fun, that his room is cleaned out and he needs to go, he will be 19 soon. Cannot hold down a job just wants to play. So with your son is he depressed? Has he seen a doctor, they can give insight sometimes too. I am a nurse and have worked with these kids but am no expert and each child is differant. But the questions I have asked you are important and when you find these out you might be able to help him. At the very least you may find out what is going on with him.

Anne - posted on 12/15/2012

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Maria, I now how you are feeling, am experiencing the same pain of being a single parent with a son doing all that you have said. I have been advised to get a mentor for mine though it has helped much. do the best that you can and most important remember to take care of yourself too and do not let the bad situation control you.Good luck

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