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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/14/2016

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Thanks, Sarah. I was catching very strong hints of both grooming behaviour in SD, and a mom who just doesn't want to believe that the man she loves would be capable of that...

Furthermore, children who are victims of sexual abuse WILL have several stories, generally, because it generally does not happen just once...

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/14/2016

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I can't finish reading this.

If you want to break it down and make it more understandable, I'll try again, but the gist that I got was you foisted your kid off on your mom under the guise of "helping" your mom, and now you're upset because you don't like how your mom disciplines, and she'd rather live at Grandma's?

Well, honestly, I'd rather live at the home where I felt welcome, rather than the home that I felt unloved and criticized constantly. The statement about you not even beginning to think about believing your daughter about potential grooming behaviours from her step father? Astounding! No wonder she wants to live elsehwere. You won't even ATTEMPT to listen to her, it sounds like.

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Stephanie Ann - posted on 05/16/2016

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to keep working with her and also to send her to a boot camp but I don't want to send her away. at my moms she was only right down the road from me and was at my house pretty much everyday after school for a few hours and stayed every 2 weeks. yes I said my mother never wanted me, but shes never treated my kids like that. she always been the best grandma to them. they weren't totally alone either my uncle lived there also. he just works in the steel mills so works long days. trust me I know now that was the biggest mistake ever made, but despite how my mother has treated me I still wanted to help her. lesson learned and she is out of my life and for now my daughter life until I feel my daughter is better. she just has major issues with listening. her rooms a pig stye, I ask her to clean it and nothing. when I ground her for not doing whats asked she flips and says theres no reason to be grounded. she'll flip in front of the counselors. they told her shes a drama queen, likes attention, will do anything to get it, and throws fits when she doesn't get her way. she thinks because she is 14 shes an adult, she doesn't realize shes still a child. she thinks I should allow her to have sex with her girlfriend, and drink. everyone seen the sexual abuse thing and bam im a horrible mom that doesn't listen to her kid!! but I do, I almost ended my marriage, over a lie. the cops, cys, and the hospital said she was convincing but when it came down to it when asked questions she couldn't give details, she failed her polygram test, my husband passed, and I had the 2 boys tested as well since they were there, and they passed as well. then she admitted more than once she lied. she said she was sorry and she does apologize for it every now and then. usually only when she wants something though. we all have been I therapy since this all started. I mean everyone. me, my husband, my daughter, my son, and his kids will join us too when they can. they know everything, I wasn't keeping anything back. they are the ones who said to keep my mother away from my daughter, they are the ones who convinced me to move. they are a great support I can call them any time day or night. but she just isn't grasping the concept that im the parent I make the rules and she is to follow them. and theres not many rules. keep her room clean, feed and water the cats and make sure her dirty clothes are in the laundry room! I do the rest. but when ask if the stuff Is done she'll storm around the house, stomping her feet as she goes, she'll scream at me. my dad told me I need to start beating her ass, hes afraid with the way she acts now that at the age of 16 she'll come after me and try to hurt me or run away. he has asked me a number of times to put her in juvy or a boot camp and so has her counselors I just don't want that to be my only option!!1

Stephanie Ann - posted on 05/15/2016

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my daughter does go to therapy and is on medication and I have family counseling 3 times a week. they come to my house!! so I have got her all the help for her that I can! my husband has been cleared in all charges by cys the police and my daughter admitted she lied to punish us!!!! if I even believed it he would not be in the same house! while she was in the hospital she asked to speak with him every night. and he had to be at every visit!!! and she wanted to go to my moms to help her because she was very close to her, and my mom just didn't like coming home to an empty house after work. my mom wanted somebody to keep her company. and my daughter wanted to go.

Stephanie Ann - posted on 05/15/2016

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really first off everyone took lie dector test he passed she failed and before that admitted she lied my mom may have treated me like shit but not her or my sister!! even the boys were tested and asked by the cops!! so u all can fuck off, he left my house while everything was going on and didn't come back until after everyone was tested!!! and questioned by the cops.

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