I can’t control my 17 year old twin daughters.

Jennifer - posted on 04/29/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I am single mom and I can’t control my 17yo twin daughters as they don’t feel shame or anything like it in being seen nude by their younger brothers who are 13 and 14, they always let it go by saying “they are kids”. They both are good girls, study hard, always got A+ their teacher never caomplaint anything bad about them, they attend guests never make me feel embarrassed infront of other, they also take good care of their brothers, make them do their homework, help them with the studies, just like they the are mothers of the boys and they were like this since they were kids. The only thing I worried about is how long they gonna be like this, I mean, they never tell thier brothers to go out, when they are changing clothes, it looks ok when they were kids but as they still get dressed and undressed even their brothers in room. I thought of getting them seprate room but they refuse and said they got enough privacy. They let their brothers to use toilet even if they are in shower, as both never closes bathroom door when they are in shower, I told both my sons to never go in bathroom when any of their sister is in shower not even if they have to pee but my daughters, they say “how cruel of you, you want them to hold their pee because their sister is in shower, comeon mom its painfull you know, they are little brothers.”

They never hesitate to pull off their towel, when they come out of shower even in the presence of their brothers, they even never cover themselves up front if the boys accidentally seen naked any of them.

I used to bathe them together till they were some 7 and the boys were 3and 4. But even when they grew older they never feel anything like shame or embarrassment on being their brother seen them naked, during the summers they both used to get in tub with their brothers even when the are 15 and the boys are 11 and 10 although the boys were in their underpants but both my girls go nude. They do sleep in same room though on seprate beds, they have got two beds, one shared by boys and other by girl. They are turning 18 next month and they don’t feel like they need a bit privacy.

I don’t want to say that word but I am afraid. What should I do with my girls. Is everthing alright with my girls?



First off I want to say that none of my kids ever abuse each other nor I have seen any of them doing something like cheap or dirty. My both son respects their sisters same as they respects me.

Well my daughters have never forced nudity on my sons, I mean they don’t grab them and made them see. All I want to say is that if the boys are in the room studing or playing or doing anything and any of my daughter has to change clothes or even their underwears they do it without telling them to go out, I also haven’t seen my sons that they are starring or enjoying while their sister are getting undressed or dressed. They have never forced the boys to get undressed ar anything, so I don’t think there is any kind a sexual thing in this.

While I am in shower, I use to close the door but I never latch it and any of my sons has to pee, I told them first to knock the door and then come in, so that I could atleast coverup myself, but my daughters they never even properly closes the door, and if any of the boy is using the toilet at the same time, they keep on showering even sometime they used to talk, like how was the day, or school or test.

My daughters never walk naked out of the shower, they are always wrapped in towel but in the room they pulled off towel to get dressed without any hesitation even in the presence of boys, as there is no big place in the bathroom so we can’t get dressed in there that’s why I also come out of shower wrapping a towel.



I used to be like them when they were all kids, actually when my husband expired I was 7 months preganant, my daughters were 5 at that time and the boy was 2, since year after birth of my youngest son I started doing a job, whe used to live in a house with one room and bathroom so I rarely had a time to look for my privacy or anything like that, all of them were kids at that time. Now we live in a house with three rooms and bathroom and kitchen, all my kids always says to keep the one room spare for the guests. By the age of 9 my daughters started taking care of my sons, I never had to pay for a babysitter, by the age of 13 they both made themselves pretty perfect in cooking and kitchen, by the age of 16 ½ they are helping me financially as well, they both work as computer operator. They never asked me anything for them like dresses or shoes but they always keep a check on what their brothers need, they made the budget of kichen things, they always satisfied with whatever I brought for them. Even now from their own salary they rarely brought anything for themselves, but they always bring gifts and videogames for their brothers, household things for home, even they brought me a dress, and earings and shoes for each other.

Well they are 17 and they both never ever had problem like boyfriend, though they had friends both boys and girls, everytime its like a home to school and school to home and now its home to office and office to home.

They both are beautiful girls, although for every mother her kids are the most beautiful but my daughters were chearleaders in the highschool and they don’t take just any girl.

From the deepest part of my heart I know I never forced them into anything, cause as girl grows she becomes like a sister to her mother.

I always tried to keep all the burden on myself as much as I could but I now it seems mostly like my daughters have tried to share as much as burden they can. Well no way I can’t kicked them out.

They both are never demanding, always want to give and share, I belive in god and I don’t know how you feel it, but I definitely don’t want them to become nuns or something like them.



They both are girls and twins, so its natural they are really close to each other, they hugs each other and its not bad, although I have never seen them doing anything unnatural but you know, well they are girls and I personaly don’t hate that kind a people but I don’t want my daughters to be like them, hope you are getting it. I just want them to be happily married and have their own kids and a good life with their husband.



Well they both sleep wearing camis and panties and even sometimes at night and during morning they remain in it, and I got no problem with it.

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Amber - posted on 12/24/2013

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Your daughters seem like good kids. I don't think you have to worry so much. I don't see a problem.

JasonHow - posted on 12/02/2012

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Hey I'm giving u the best advise ever so listen up each children are different in many ways what I think I know about ur children is that they are curios about each an other I'm not talking about intense sexual activity I'm talking about children they are growing up their hormones are changing they change to I know what u mean about girls hate to be nude in front of boys but some girls are different I say is just ask them nicely If they say nothing or what ever or any excuses then well... What u do is just say ok. Justeru MAKE SURE THEY ARE NROTDOIN INTENSE SEXUAL ACTIVITY. Ur children ARE Yong. Teens after All. Lets say if they lock the door well... U know what they r doing what I advise u to dO is yo knock I gtg bye

Reese - posted on 11/27/2012

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i am also 17 if it helps :) try speaking to your daughters about birds and bees and stuff like that maybe they dont have the boundry yet that seperates kid privacy from teen privacy or such . i am sure they will learn soon, goodluck

Reese - posted on 11/27/2012

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i am a identical twin myself,thought id put some of my input in.To be honest i get changed infront of my twin,heck even infront of little bros but not nude definitely,either i change just pants or a shirt or I go to the bathroom. Either your kids enjoy taking their clothes off infront of their siblings,which i dont think is happening. Or they have such a bond to their brothers that they trust them and love them,but defintely when the boys will turn13+ other rooms of changing etc wil be needed, since puberty and stuff.any way good luck i am a male twin,not female just wanted to help :) . i may not exactly know what its like but I hope this helped

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/07/2012

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Set rules. And abide by those rules. You are giving in to them by NOT enforcing your mandates of opposite sex nudity being unacceptable now that your sons are tweens.

It sounds to me like you do have wonderful children, but it also sounds to me that you give in to those girls! I could be wrong, but you clearly state that you tell the boys one thing "don't go into the bathroom while your sister is in there", and the girls shot that down, so you quit enforcing it!

The girls are still your kids, still living under your roof, right? So who makes the house rules? Who enforces them consistantly? That's where you need to start, in my opinion.

It sounds like they are pretty used to getting it the way they want it, so you will have your work cut out for you.

And, no, it doesn't hurt for those boys to have to hold it in for a few minutes if sis is in the shower...hours, yes. Minutes, no. Your sons are of the age that they don't need to see any extra nudity, be it family or not. It is completely inappropriate, unless you live in a nudist colony.

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